A post to my page….so people can understand their needs, more….
I’ve always been a very huggy person – with people I know.
When drunk – I always hugged anyone and everyone too and told everyone I love them…..which I’m not encouraging.
I think it’s partly because I like to hug people and want them to feel loved and partly because I crave the non sexual, genuine, caring affection, I never received in my childhood.
Of course, my soft boundaries and need to hug people, has been taken advantage of, including by a narc church pastor – who seemed to believe that was a green light for his sexual adulterous intentions….so now I’m more careful.
Have you craved the affection not received in childhood?
Safe, genuine ((((((((hugs))))))) to anyone who needs one today
Unmet childhood needs, continue right on into adulthood.
I’ve even dreamed about my doctor hugging me. Which as embarrassing as that is, I know why, and understand why, and would not actually do. I know boundaries…now.
It’s my hurt, neglected inner child, wanting love, from family, I never had, that looks to seek it in people I have any level of trust in, who show me caring, in any way.
I also know why hugs from my husband, are often not the hugs I seek. Because my inner child is seeking hugs, from people who have no sexual intentions/needs in me. And my husband obviously has sexual needs and attraction to me, so those inner child needs, reject that.
To know this, have self compassion and understand why and how to have better boundaries – is needed, and part of healing.