I am a survivor of severe abuse, prolonged, interpersonal, severely traumatic abuse – and I ‘know’ my issues, I know I have PTSD, I know why, I have deep insight and I have educated myself and through counselling into trauma and it’s consequences.
But, I see clearly how far less obvious childhood issues, can lead to greater mental health issues and far less capacity to have self insight, or change.
Over-indulgent parents – can lead to their children being entitled, narcissistic adults.
Parents who lack empathy, don’t teach/model that for their children – so they also become lacking in empathy, and can be hurtful to others and lack remorse or conscience, which stays in adulthood.
Parents who spank/smack their children – can often lead to their children becoming depressed, low self esteem, have anxiety issues and have increased anger, violence, crime, in adulthood.
Parents who are materialistic, status orientated, work more than they ‘need’ to for ‘things’, are time poor – can lead to all manner of issues in their childhood and this leave long term issues into adulthood.
Parents who are very controlling – this again can lead to big issues. I know one woman who is very controlling and her daughter has BPD/alcohol issues, as a result. This mother is totally oblivious to the harm caused by her parenting. She doesn’t see it is anything to do with her, at all. But, I do. Controlling parents cause many mental health issues in their children, that continue on into adulthood.
Parents who think it’s funny to put down people and be bitchy etc – teach their children to be the same – be bullies, remaining into adulthood.
There are so many more I could list. Continue reading