Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

My son’s empathic heart.


After spending time earlier upset then numb, due to not being the mother I want to be for my children…

My son told me this evening his teacher is putting his name down to be considered for student of the year, for being so kind often to a boy who is being bullied a lot.

I cried. I am such a sook. To know my children are growing with the one thing I want them to have the most – empathy – is so heart warming for me.

My son was bullied at a former junior school, for a few years and due to anxiety and the school dealing with it badly, we had to change schools and my son was instantly a much happier child and continued to be for the remaining 3 years of junior school.

The high school he started at this year, has a lot of students from that school where he was bullied, that have now filtered through to the high school and funnily enough it is those students that are bullying this child, that my son has been kind to. My son felt sorry for him, knowing what being bullied feels like and also because I talk with him about being kind to those who need it.

I’ve talked with him, how crappy things are going to happen – that is life – but we can use it for good, as he sees me doing with my PTSD work. And how that needs to be from the heart – not for pride, or to feel good, or for money, or anything else. But because being kind and being compassionate – is about being a decent human being.

My son is not an straight A Grade academic child – but he has an A Grade heart and I could not be more proud of him.

Too many parents focus on academic ability, IQ and don’t focus on EQ.

I am not a perfect parent by far, but I guess I am doing okay, and under the circumstances of what I am dealing with, that must be pretty okay.

Even my hives have started going down that I have had since 3pm, because I had to leave the house, to pick up my children from school. I hate leaving my house now.

But, to know my son is a normal kid, learning empathy, with a kind heart, soothes my soul a little today and I love my sons and want them to be all they can be.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “My son’s empathic heart.

  1. You are teaching them well 🙂

  2. what a beautiful post. “too many parents focus on academic ability – IQ and don’t focus on EQ” – totally agree, it is EQ that will make them into contented adults who are more at ease with themselves and others, which seems way more important than earning potential to me.

  3. Reblogged this on Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD and commented:

    I am re-blogging this, to remind me of the good things about my parenting.
    I teach my children empathy and reaching out to people who need help, who need someone to be kind.
    It is important to me, my children learn empathy.
    The world needs far more of it.
    Empathy and wisdom.