After spending time earlier upset then numb, due to not being the mother I want to be for my children…
My son told me this evening his teacher is putting his name down to be considered for student of the year, for being so kind often to a boy who is being bullied a lot.
I cried. I am such a sook. To know my children are growing with the one thing I want them to have the most – empathy – is so heart warming for me.
My son was bullied at a former junior school, for a few years and due to anxiety and the school dealing with it badly, we had to change schools and my son was instantly a much happier child and continued to be for the remaining 3 years of junior school.
The high school he started at this year, has a lot of students from that school where he was bullied, that have now filtered through to the high school and funnily enough it is those students that are bullying this child, that my son has been kind to. My son felt sorry for him, knowing what being bullied feels like and also because I talk with him about being kind to those who need it.
I’ve talked with him, how crappy things are going to happen – that is life – but we can use it for good, as he sees me doing with my PTSD work. And how that needs to be from the heart – not for pride, or to feel good, or for money, or anything else. But because being kind and being compassionate – is about being a decent human being.
My son is not an straight A Grade academic child – but he has an A Grade heart and I could not be more proud of him.
Too many parents focus on academic ability, IQ and don’t focus on EQ.
I am not a perfect parent by far, but I guess I am doing okay, and under the circumstances of what I am dealing with, that must be pretty okay.
Even my hives have started going down that I have had since 3pm, because I had to leave the house, to pick up my children from school. I hate leaving my house now.
But, to know my son is a normal kid, learning empathy, with a kind heart, soothes my soul a little today and I love my sons and want them to be all they can be.