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People confuse ‘compassion’ for abusers, with being one of their ‘apaths’.


I see people who think they are showing compassion and grace to abusive people, to narcissistic/sociopathic people etc – but what they fail to realise is that they actually courting evil, by becoming one of their ‘apaths’.

I see this, even in people who believe they are wise and spiritually progressed.

I don’t hate abusive people. I don’t want anything bad to occur to them. I do want them stopped from hurting people.

But, I will never condone, enable, excuse, ignore their behaviour. Which is what apaths, so.

It is hard to watch and know there is so little I can do.

Not only are abusive people increasing – but their apath’s, are too.

This is not wisdom, not compassion, not empathy…it is being deceived.

Read here for more info on the Sociopath – Apath – Empath Triad.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “People confuse ‘compassion’ for abusers, with being one of their ‘apaths’.

  1. This is a powerful post. I was one of those people who thought love and compassion would “change” them and I just devolved and had a stress break. When it was all over and done I can see how some people once abused actually choose a lack of empathy, to “empower” themselves. It if course just makes them more dysfunctional.

    • I agree with all you have said ❤

      I don't believe love and compassion changes them, I have seen clearly how that just enables them and allows them to believe what they do is okay.

      It's like dealing with children. If you let them get away with bad behaviour, they will continue.

      Narcs/sociopaths have emotional development stuck in childhood. And they are highly manipulative and easily fool even mental health professionals too. I've seen that happen.

      They don't think the same way we do. They have no empathy, no remorse. They only ever act for self. That can't be changed by anything we do.

      And I don't believe in ignoring their abuse, the harm they do.

      That to me, is being one of their apaths.