Society loves to minimize the pain leaving abusive relationships can cause.
If you loved the person, it really fucking hurts.
I am still not able to deal with the pain of all I have learned about my mother, my sisters, other abusers.
It is so hard to leave even when you know they are hurting you. You are faced with the horrible options of staying in the relationship and being hurt…or facing the fear of losing people you love and the grieving and depression that causes.
I have had so many abusive relationships I have left, but are still so deeply painful, that is too much for me to bear.
I don’t think I will ever cope with the reality of all these people – who I loved – who didn’t love me at all – hurting me as much as they did. And none of them care at all. No remorse, no empathy, no conscience, nothing.
It is deeply cruel to even love one and be hurt.
But to have had so many – is beyond cruel.