Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Don’t minimize the pain of leaving abusive relationships.

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Society loves to minimize the pain leaving abusive relationships can cause.

If you loved the person, it really fucking hurts.

I am still not able to deal with the pain of all I have learned about my mother, my sisters, other abusers.

It is so hard to leave even when you know they are hurting you. You are faced with the horrible options of staying in the relationship and being hurt…or facing the fear of losing people you love and the grieving and depression that causes.

I have had so many abusive relationships I have left, but are still so deeply painful, that is too much for me to bear.

I don’t think I will ever cope with the reality of all these people – who I loved – who didn’t love me at all – hurting me as much as they did. And none of them care at all. No remorse, no empathy, no conscience, nothing.

It is deeply cruel to even love one and be hurt.

But to have had so many – is beyond cruel.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Don’t minimize the pain of leaving abusive relationships.

  1. Yeah, my ex-friend was an enabler of his wife’s abuse, and over time I began to realize that he himself is abusive and sociopathic. But it still has taken me four years to even begin to get over breaking off the friendship. 😦