Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Frances Bean Cobain is being highly un-empathic about Lana Del Rey’s emotions.


A shit storm had recently occurred on Twitter, when F B Cobain, stated Lana Del Rey was romanticising suicide.

Lana Del Rey stated during a recent interview – that was not meant to be aired publicly, she wishes she was dead already. It is clear from LDR’s music and lyrics, she has possibly struggled with suicide, suicide ideation and she has stated her music is about her life.

Suicide, is not selfish, it is not about being weak. But, so many in society have little empathy about this and have judgments that are so deeply un-empathic.

Obviously, F B Combain, has emotional reasons triggered by the suicide of her father, and never growing up with a father, to be upset about people speaking about suicide and wanting to be dead.

But, that does NOT give her the right to attack someone who is courageously voicing her own painful emotions and is in a deeply painful place.

Did FBC stop to think that attacking LDR publicly – may actually make LDR’s potential/possible life threatening situation worse? No she didn’t – she just thought about herself, in a very entitled and selfish manner. Continue reading

Why was I abused?

More of society needs to be aware of this and stop perpetuating rubbish.
The truth, is what is needed.

Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

Why was I abused….??

There is only one reason, why I have endured severe, multiple abuse in my life.

Because abusive people, made decisions and choices to abuse me.

No, it wasn’t because I deserved it.

No, it wasn’t due to anything I did wrong.

No, it wasn’t because God wanted or chose for me to suffer, as part of His divine plan.

No, I wasn’t given this life because I am strong enough to live it.

No, it wasn’t my karma.

No, it wasn’t due to the laws of attraction that meant I in some way attracted it into my life.

No, it wasn’t because I had some divine purpose that meant I needed to suffer to learn and grow.

Or any of the other unwise rubbish peddled in society.

Abusive people, made choices to abuse me.

It is their blame, their shame, their guilt, their sin.

It is…

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When you change, grow, are honest, courageous…you lose people.

I posted this onto my peer support page, because I know so many will relate to this. And they do.

So many reasons why this occurs.

Being honest about having PTSD.

Being honest about feeling suicidal.

Growth, beyond those in your life.

No longer being interested in what most people are…materialism, consumerism, image, body image, money…etc.

Being courageous in stating the truth, which people don’t like/want to hear. Continue reading

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Sociopath – Apath – Empath….The Gaslighting Effect


Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented in such a way as to make the target doubt his/her memory and perception. Psychologists call this “the sociopath’s dance”. It could involve denial or staging of strange events.

This is Machiavellian behaviour of the worst kind. And anyone can become a victim of the sociopath’s gaslighting moves: parent and child, in-laws, friends, groups of people including work colleagues.

Psychotherapist Christine Louise de Canonville describes different phases that the abuser leads the relationship through: •the idealisation stage, where the sociopath shows herself in the best possible light – but this phase is an illusion, to draw her target in

•the devaluation stage begins gradually so the target is not alert to the sociopath’s transformation to being cold and unfeeling, but will begin to feel devalued at every turn; the more distressed the target becomes, the more the sociopath enjoys her power, and her abuse can become more extreme Continue reading


Opened up a bit more in counselling, so that’s progress.

Had counselling today and opened up a little more than I am normally capable of. It was okay, obviously not pleasant stuff to talk about, but I coped and didn’t end up either an emotional mess, or dissociated.

Discussed my strong beliefs and integrity to God, and about child abuse and how I will not condone or enable it. Good to think about the best way to deal with that.

Talked about my trust issues and that Jesus knew that when the shit hit the fan – all his disciples would betray him and were out to look after themselves and that I know this is the reality of most people in life. People are inherently selfish beings and that is something I am continually aware of.

I know my integrity to my values about these really important issues, is stronger than my need to people please, because I know voices are needed and I can be one. Good to discuss the best way to move forward in this, as I do have deep discernment and deep capacity to see beyond what I want to see, or want to hear, to make my life easy and comfortable. I am willing to receive hassle, and not shy away from that as an excuse to not voice the truth.

Big headache now because it was hard to talk, and a lot to think about.

But, very worthwhile and needed.