Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


‘Focus on a positive attitude’ – not wise advice for healing abuse survivors.

Society promotes the whole ‘focus on a positive attitude’ as being the answer for anything.

Church people like to do focus on ‘count your blessings’.

Neither of these are helpful, or appropriate advice to give to people who are trying to heal severe abuse and trauma. All these do, is avoid suppress, ignore the emotions needed to process the trauma, the emotions needed to grieve. Suppression is never healthy when it comes to abuse and trauma.

How do I know this….because I did it myself for 20 years. And it made my current situation worse.

I did what society and unwise people demand – moved on, got over it, made a life, tried to never think about my past, worked hard, exercised hard, focussed on enjoying myself blah blah blah…

And all that did was suppress the deeply painful emotions and severe trauma, that needed to have been dealt with at the age of 20 yrs old.

But, I had no support, no family so I did what I needed to do to support myself, survive and suppressed it as much as I possible could. Continue reading


Bike ride, ocean, fun, silly selfies, coffee…..oh and yes, the damn hives…. :)

Today, I mustered up the energy to get out on my bike, so hubby and I went out, to a place where we could cycle easily, alongside the ocean.

It was a beautiful winter day, still warm, blue sky, ocean, fresh air…..lovely! 🙂

Of course, the hives were there, they are 95% of the time I go out of my house now, but the good part was, because I am not totally confident cycling yet, I didn’t want to let go of the handle bars, to scratch the damn things.

*Must remember to take anti-histamines before I go out again.

It was really lovely and I was really knackered! I am sooooo unfit.

We stopped for a rest….after about 20 minutes…..yes that is how unfit I am…..and decided to have a little narcissistic selfie (lol) moment and took some photos, including one of me being silly and ‘photo bombing’ a pic of my husband. It was silly, harmless fun and we enjoyed it! 😀

I unleashed my inner child and it felt good 🙂

Stopped later on…..after all 5km’s…….yes pathetic and that was all I managed……because I am soooo unfit……and had a coffee and some water.

This was our view 🙂

I often remind people, I am not a mental health professional, nor do I pretend to be.

As I am so honest and forthright about my journey, my insight etc, sometimes people see me as a ‘professional’, or guru of PTSD and that is not something I wish to encourage.

So I do remind people of the reality of my situation and I am not a professional.

A post to my page today 🙂

I do have deep insight into trauma, abuse, PTSD & Complex PTSD and into how abusers mind’s work, due to needing to survive them.

I don’t have all the answers though, nor am I fully healed of my trauma.

I’m not a mental health professional (yet), so I remind everyone of that – and I do always advise seeking professional diagnosis and counselling.

I am in counselling and have been for 2 years and will be for some time and that’s okay, I need it.

So please don’t take everything I say here as professional advice, or to be what everyone needs. Continue reading