Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

The lack of empathy in people, just never ceases to bother me.



Empathy is rare, I know that. Most people only have sympathy, but think that is empathy.

I can tell who has empathy and who doesn’t and why.

Saw a post about mothers on Christmas Island trying to end their lives, to give their children a better chance at life.

Now regardless of the politics, this made me want to cry. Just thinking about how these mothers are feeling, to be considering suicide to help their children, makes me very emotional.

And yet so many do not have empathy and I have just forced myself to get off a page where this is all being debated and the lack of empathy astounds me. The selfishness, the ‘making up’ facts to better their argument, then ignoring the real facts I provided.

‘Charity begins at home’, one stated. ‘These women should be condemned for putting their children at risk’.

Wow. No concept of what these mothers have come from. No concept of how it feels to do anything for your children to keep them safe, even if this means killing yourself.

There were maybe 3 empathic comments and probably 50 that were not and were plain mean and nasty about these women.

None of these people, had any concept of putting themselves in the shoes of these people, of these mothers and feeling what they must be going through.

And the shite they were making up ‘Australia is on par with other developed countries for taking refugees’. Absolute rubbish, yet when I produced the actual stats, ignored that.

Apart from the maybe 3 nice comments all the rest just made up crap, made assumptions and acted in a defensive, non empathic, non compassionate manner. And did not like it at all, when I told them that.

I stopped arguing with them, because it just made me a fool as well, to continue.

I am defensive of vulnerable people, who are suffering. I don’t want them to be suffering and that is a good virtue to have. I wish more had it.

Regardless of any of the politics, I feel deeply for these women, whether it be partly mental health, partly deep fear, partly sheer motherly distress and need for your child to be safe etc – I don’t know. But, whatever, they are suffering.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “The lack of empathy in people, just never ceases to bother me.

  1. It never ceases to amaze me either, so many people are just without compassion for others that when I encounter a new abusive person I still go into a state of shock and denial often.

    • I know exactly how your feel ❤

      After knowing and enduring so many abusive people in my life, you would think I wouldn't be surprised by human behaviour anymore.

      I think it is the good in us, that is still repulsed by the bad in others. Which is a good thing.

      I guess when we stop being repulsed by the bad human behaviour, we become apathetic like so many people are. Which is not good.