Their unhealthy ego, needs it.
And because of who they are and their deep inners shame they cannot admit to having, they think everyone else is the same and has the same ‘needs’ they do.
It’s the same with their tantrums, they think they are normal, and everyone has them.
It’s the same with the lying, they lie, so they assume everyone does.
I had a narc pastor and wife tell me that ‘everyone’ lies, to somehow excuse their lies.
Well, actually no, not everyone lies, not everyone had their narc traits.
But narcs, just cannot admit who they are and what they are.
I feel sad for them.
But, I do not excuse the harm they cause either, they need dealing with.
I don’t ‘need’ to have the last word, I’ll let them have it, to appease their ego a little. I know their ego makes them hurt and angry and destructive.