It’s sad how much this happens, but it does all the time.
I have spent 2 years, looking at all the good, bad and ugly within myself, taken advice, been courageous and honest to be totally upfront about everything I am.
My very experienced doctor/counsellor, remarked, this is rare and refreshing.
It is, I see that all the time around me.
People want to give their opinion/judgment and it’s often uneducated in psychology or insight or any empathy and then when you tell them that – boom!….their ego goes straight on the defensive and they feel ‘attacked’ – instead of looking to what might be true about themselves.
It’s called narcissistic injury.
The narcissism in people – to want to say and do whatever they please, regardless of how uneducated, uninformed they may be – thinks they can damn well do it, whether people like it or not. They can wrap it up as thinking they are doing good, being positive etc, but really this is a mask, a disguise for their own self motivated needs.
But, their narcissism also means no-one can say anything bad back to them….oh no….that’s not allowed….they can only be agreed with.
That’s the narcissism rules.
And if you do ‘injure’ the narcs ego – watch out, the rage will fly.
So sad, that so many are like this.
Narcissism is becoming an epidemic, encouraged by society all the time.
Secure people, with no/little narcissism, don’t get defensive.
And wise people wonder if there is something to be learned.