Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It is such an immature mind, that only wants to ‘focus on the good in people’.

Society loves to promote so many unhealthy ways to think.

‘Focus on the good”
‘A beautiful mind only looks for the good in others’
‘Don’t talk about people faults, instead encourage their strengths’
“Always expect good to happen’
And many more like this.

Hardly reality is it.

This is very immature and all about giving yourself an easy life. There is good and bad in all of us. And neither should be ignored.

Yes, it is ‘reality’ that some people do have considerable more bad in them and do terrible things to other people. So, is it okay to avoid, ignore this. No, because that is enabling them.

I’m not ever promoting that we hate people. But ‘ignore the bad in people?’ Really!? That is not the way to help people to be healthy, by avoiding the bad in people.

That is just apathy and choosing an easy path for yourself, and both of these are rife within society.

Whenever we ignore the bad in people, we are actually colluding with them and choosing a weak, selfish path, of least resistance, least issues, least hassle, least rejection etc.

Church people are experts at this. They call it ‘grace’. But what it really is a ‘cheap grace’, that requires no effort to sort out the problem, no hassle, no repentance, no consequences to behaviours. Weak. Apathetic. Not of Christ.

Cheap grace, is the delight of the devil. Of course he wants sin, with no consequences, no repentance, no guilt, no shame, no remorse. Isn’t that exactly what Satan is all about?

I despair sometimes at the immaturity of people, the immaturity of people’s faith. The weakness in humanity.

Not because I hate people, but because I see and know the suffering and harm it causes. And that is never okay.

I look to all the great humanitarians in this world, and the hassle, abuse, resentment, rejection, jealousy, nastiness, criticism that they all have encountered. Jesus, being the greatest example, by far.

They are who I look up to, and feel the most inspired by. These people had true wisdom, had true courage, had true humanity needs at heart.

They didn’t only ‘look for the good in people’ and ignore the bad. They didn’t hate, or wish any harm to anyone, as I don’t, but they didn’t choose any easy life either.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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