Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Am I too hard on people, or are most people capable of more…?

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Having processed my level of wisdom is beyond my years and this is why I feel very different to so many people around me, and see so much harm, abuse, unhealthy focusses and society travelling in the wrong direction…

I want others to know and see there is more to life, there are people who need help and society is immature and increasingly so.

I read that the level of maturity people are meant to reach at 30, most now don’t reach until 50, and the level meant to be reached at 50, most never reach.

And I see many reasons why.

My heart is that I do not want this for anyone, for society. I don’t want this harm it’s causing, I want people to learn what I have. I want to people to have less of all I see in life that is not of virtue.

But, am I asking too much of people?

If my maturity level is that beyond most people, and that of an old woman, then am I expecting far too much from anyone under the age of 80? Particularly those aged in their 30’s, 40’s?

Is it their sin, their selfishness, and unwillingness to see more, to think deeper, or are they just incapable?

I guess, there is probably a combination of both and I don’t know in each person what that combination is…i.e. how much is incapacity, how much is sin and unwillingness. And I am aware I am being judgmental to assume I know, although I am also very perceptive in people I know well and can pick up on their motivations, their character and what it is driven by.

And this will be about a persons heart and soul, as to how little willingness there is.

And it is about emotional courage, which is not common.

Am I just lacking in patience with people, or am I wise in wanting more for people and expecting that and knowing people could try harder, if they made a choice to?

Or am I assuming, wrongly, people are capable of self insight, self reflection, introspection, when maybe most aren’t?

Is it too much to want society to grow up? To mature at a more appropriate rate and not regress – as I see clearly is occurring?

I do know for sure, age has nothing to do with maturity, IQ is nothing to do with maturity and most people are no-where near as mature as they think they are.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Am I too hard on people, or are most people capable of more…?

  1. Thank you for this lovely post. It expresses many things that resonate with me. For me it is a difficult balance to keep, having compassion or self-compassion/patience for the current state vs. seeking improvement in the world or myself. I do know the things we perceive/discern are true and not to be just dismissed, but experience has taught me that I also do not see it all. Yet waiting to understand it all before action accomplishes nothing. We can only act on what we know and feel is right, and have compassion for being in a state of still learning, still capable of being and doing what we dislike to see in the world.