I spend a lot of time analysing my thoughts. Because, I never want them to be irrational, unreasonable, or affected by my past severe trauma history.
I have strong views on society and Christianity doing so much harm by ‘perpetrator protecting’, as I clearly see it does. And I see clearly how this enables and encourages abuse to keep increasing. I don’t like this and I know it is wrong. And I see so many of the reasons why this occurs and none of it is wisdom.
Some people I disagree with about their views, will have the reasons why they believe I am wrong. But, I do not have an unreasonable view of how abusive people should be treated.
I read an article about paedophiles being beaten up in prison. My immediate reaction was to feel how wrong this is. The thought of any ‘human being’, being beaten up physically like this, makes me sad. Now this would apply to anyone. Including about my own abusers.
I don’t believe in abusing people back, or repaying evil with evil. To me, that makes everyone as bad as each other. And I’ve never believed in this being okay.
But, I do believe in people having the full and appropriate and needed consequences to their actions, and not using mental health as the excuse, to excuse their abuse. All my abusers had severe mental health issues, and I know each of one of them, knew right from wrong and knew what they were doing was wrong. They just didn’t care, hid it, lied about it, denied it etc. Proof of them knowing what they did was wrong.
I believe in ‘always’ exposing abuse, I believe in prison, and appropriate jail time and I believe those who cannot be rehabilitated, should not be allowed back into the community, where they can hurt people again. I believe they need to live a life free from abuse, because I don’t believe planned abuse is ever condonable. But, segregated from society.
I don’t agree they need beating up in prison, or the death penalty – only God has the right to take life away, or any of these strong beliefs some people have about ‘teaching them how it feels to be abused’.
I do understand how if a father or mother walks in on their child being abused, then the immediate anger could lead them to attacking that abuser. And I understand the emotions of the parent protecting their child, would take over and that is more understandable. But in a prison, beating up abusers, is different, as that is planned abuse. Never okay.
I have been abused, by a paedophile, and by many other types of abusers. I have been abused severely, over long periods of time. Been groomed as a child, teenager and an adult. I’ve suffered greatly in life, and yet I don’t believe in hurting people back. I only agree in appropriate consequences, justice and keeping others safe from this harm. I don’t want abuse enabled.
So, to anyone who thinks I have a warped sense of thought processing, I disagree.
And I know when tested on these issues, like reading that article on paedophiles being beaten up and my immediate reactions – are my heart being tested and I pass.
Abuse is never condonable.
But neither is ignoring it and enabling it either.
Both are equally allowing evil to occur.
That does not ever sit well with my heart and soul.