Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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No, I don’t want paedophiles, rapists, sex offenders etc, to be beaten up, abused back.


I spend a lot of time analysing my thoughts. Because, I never want them to be irrational, unreasonable, or affected by my past severe trauma history.

I have strong views on society and Christianity doing so much harm by ‘perpetrator protecting’, as I clearly see it does. And I see clearly how this enables and encourages abuse to keep increasing. I don’t like this and I know it is wrong. And I see so many of the reasons why this occurs and none of it is wisdom.

Some people I disagree with about their views, will have the reasons why they believe I am wrong. But, I do not have an unreasonable view of how abusive people should be treated.

I read an article about paedophiles being beaten up in prison. My immediate reaction was to feel how wrong this is. The thought of any ‘human being’, being beaten up physically like this, makes me sad. Now this would apply to anyone. Including about my own abusers.

I don’t believe in abusing people back, or repaying evil with evil. To me, that makes everyone as bad as each other. And I’ve never believed in this being okay.

But, I do believe in people having the full and appropriate and needed consequences to their actions, and not using mental health as the excuse, to excuse their abuse. All my abusers had severe mental health issues, and I know each of one of them, knew right from wrong and knew what they were doing was wrong. They just didn’t care, hid it, lied about it, denied it etc. Proof of them knowing what they did was wrong.

I believe in ‘always’ exposing abuse, I believe in prison, and appropriate jail time and I believe those who cannot be rehabilitated, should not be allowed back into the community, where they can hurt people again. I believe they need to live a life free from abuse, because I don’t believe planned abuse is ever condonable. But, segregated from society.

I don’t agree they need beating up in prison, or the death penalty – only God has the right to take life away, or any of these strong beliefs some people have about ‘teaching them how it feels to be abused’.

I do understand how if a father or mother walks in on their child being abused, then the immediate anger could lead them to attacking that abuser. And I understand the emotions of the parent protecting their child, would take over and that is more understandable. But in a prison, beating up abusers, is different, as that is planned abuse. Never okay.

I have been abused, by a paedophile, and by many other types of abusers. I have been abused severely, over long periods of time. Been groomed as a child, teenager and an adult. I’ve suffered greatly in life, and yet I don’t believe in hurting people back. I only agree in appropriate consequences, justice and keeping others safe from this harm. I don’t want abuse enabled.

So, to anyone who thinks I have a warped sense of thought processing, I disagree.

And I know when tested on these issues, like reading that article on paedophiles being beaten up and my immediate reactions – are my heart being tested and I pass.

Abuse is never condonable.

But neither is ignoring it and enabling it either.

Both are equally allowing evil to occur.

That does not ever sit well with my heart and soul.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “No, I don’t want paedophiles, rapists, sex offenders etc, to be beaten up, abused back.

  1. I disagree fully. I have been the victim of rape and assault more times than I can count. They were all different men on different occasions. I have been left afraid and broken. While they go live their undeserving pathetic lives! If they did it to me then they WILL do it to someone else. They took everything from me! I don’t want anyone to feel the way I do! They dont deserve life! They are sick creatures that need to be put down!!

    • I’m so sorry you have been abused repeatedly Rhonda, I do understand, my trauma history is severe.

      If I could segregate all these people from the rest of society I absolutely would, as I said in the blog.

      I do believe they should not be given the opportunity to do again to anyone else and I am a very strong advocate for that. I do not believe they should be allowed back into society, the way they are and I believe the legal system fails badly.

      I just don’t believe in repaying evil with evil. It feels very wrong to me.

      But, I understand this is a very emotional topic for sufferers of abuse and I fully understand your deep emotions about this.

      ❤ ❤