I am aware, what I write helps people. Not everyone, and that’s okay. We are all different. But, I do know, I do help many.
Sometimes, people say things that make me really stop in my tracks and think ‘wow, I didn’t realise I was helping in that way.’
This was one such occasion, when someone wrote the following on a post on my community page. (name removed for privacy).
To help anyone trust what their therapist is saying, is so good. As trust is a major issue – I know all too well.
And this obviously clarifies, that what I wrote, is also what a professional therapist is also saying, advising and believes. And this is all processing I have done myself, due to my own self insight, not what have heard in my own counselling. I’m aware I can pretty much work it all out myself. I just need help figuring out how the hell I deal with all this deep insight and the hell to deal with all these people out there, who cause all this harm and abuse.
This was the post, that the response was about;
“Complex trauma survivors often learn to cope with behaviours and strategies that may seem unhealthy to others.
It is what that survivor knows and is familiar with, which can feel safer than anything else – even if unhealthy.
There is safety in the familiar. The unfamiliar, can seem infinitely more scary”
~ Lilly Hope Lucario