I see so clearly how this is a typical narcissistic trait – it gives abusive people the perfect way to abuse others and then demand you just forgive and forget – with no consequences to the behaviour.
I see clearly how church people/religious people LOVE to use this to do as they wish, have no consequences to their behaviour, have no repentance and put the full responsibility on the person hurt – to do the forgiving – and call them a bad Christian if they don’t.
Abusive religious people love cheap grace and demanding forgiveness – with no repentance. And projecting blame onto the victims. And telling you, you are wrong to feel angry about the abuse/lies you have endured.
I’ve known since I was a child, that people not dealing with their behaviours appropriately, is wrong.
My step father had the typical abusive trait of saying “Do as I say, not as I do”. In other words he could do what he wanted that was wrong – but I couldn’t and I would get punished. I would be in the wrong. As I was often, being the family scapegoat – another narcissist behaviour.
I knew so much that was wrong when I was a child/teenager. I have always had that wise old soul part of me, that deals in reality and truth – something so many adults, can never manage.
I find it very sad, that so many grown adults, cannot own their issues, their sins, their abusive behaviours. And narcissists never will.