Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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12 Reasons – Why I Never Stood A Chance – In Organised Christianity


There are many issues, that churches and religious people fail so badly at.

These are 12 of the reasons why I was always going to be badly treated;

1. Yeah sure, come hurt me more..

I am an abuse survivor and it is commonly known survivors are treated badly by church people.

2. Watch out ‘demons alert’

I have a mental health disorder, which often is dealt with in a highly abusive manner by church people and often mental health is wrongly and abusively described as being ‘demons’.

3. Is he praying, or preying?

I was abused by a minister. Leading to the common practice of protecting the abuser and getting rid of the victim.

4. Keep silent woman!

I am a woman, who does ‘not’ believe women need to keep quiet, and I know this is what Jesus also believes and is Biblical.

5. Don’t hurt us…with the truth!

I am not afraid to speak the truth, and I know exposing the truth, is needed and I have emotional and spiritual integrity and courage. Most don’t.

6. Yeah, I know all your tactics!

I know a lot about how abusers operate, many of their strategies and the psychology behind it, and those who enable it, are their ‘apaths’ and I can easily detect it occurring.

7. Stuck at stage 3..?

My spiritual progression is further than most church people will ever be at.

8. How about a spot of ‘Selective Bible Verse Abuse’?

I don’t choose the immature ‘Selective Bible Verse Abuse, many do choose.

9. Flocks of mind controlled sheep?

I wasn’t brought up in churches, so haven’t been ‘conditioned’, ‘mind controlled’, into their usual ways.

10. Protect the perps..

I can see the bigger picture, of how ‘perpetrator protecting’, is not of Jesus, at all.

11. It’s all about reputation you know..

I don’t care about the churches ‘reputation’, when it comes to evil occurring.

12. Blind, deaf and dumb and dumber…

I won’t go along with the evil, that is ‘cheap grace’, ”forced forgiveness’, ‘forced compassion’, ‘forgive and forget’, ‘keep quiet about abuse’, ‘don’t speak up’ etc about abuse.

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I will come back to this, and write about each of these 12 issues that generally and widely are dealt with so badly.

I realise now, I never stood a chance.

I have been abused for 2 years, by church people, because of all the above reasons. I have seen it clearly occurring and it is a massive amount of spiritual, emotional, psychological abuse, that I do not condone, accept, enable or justify in any way, at all.

But, so many do and they are all sinning and this is evil occurring.

I could write a book, based upon these 12 chapters, with Bible references to them all, and how this all affects abuse survivors – to help those harmed and abused, by religious abuse.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “12 Reasons – Why I Never Stood A Chance – In Organised Christianity

  1. Thanks for your post. It’s very interesting as a key part of my own PTSD treatment was hardwiring my core beliefs and where I stood with religion. Part of my PTSD treatment at Oxford University was studying how and why different cultures react to trauma. I ended up reading a lot about the history of religion. I found Christopher Hitchens writing and speeches a great source of comfort and inspiration with how to move forward.

  2. Reblogged this on Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD and commented:

    I do think I have the start of a book that would explain the harm church people can do, to abuse survivors and the many different ways, due to my own experiences and research on the matter. I have so many blogs already written, for each of these chapters. Would be interesting for sure. But, having had many Christians comment on their similar experiences, it would help people. Who knows. I know for sure church people need to be aware of all this. Most won’t listen , but some would.


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