Pete Walker, has deep insight into complex trauma within childhood.
Emotional flashbacks, are something many don’t realise they are enduring, until they understand what they are, why they are occurring and learn how to identify them.
They are the hardest flashbacks to understand and identify, and many just assume they are feeling emotional. Often they will be described by others, as being over-emotional, or over sensitive.
I am still struggling with mine. But, I am aware, when I feel scared, vulnerable, fearful, lost, completely alone…I am experiencing not just what may have hurt me now, but the issue has triggered emotions from the past too. I know my inner child is suffering.
This does ‘not’, however, minimise the issue that is occurring now, that triggered this.
People minimizing trauma, are wrong and it is abusive. But, I will feel this, to a depth of pain, that is not understood, unless it is experienced. Because, I have dealt with this, my entire life. And my pain, and the abuse I have endured, is severe. It is especially horrendous, if this person is someone I have tried to trust.
I am in the process of trying to learn to have inner dialogue, that helps me deal with those painful emotions. It is a slow process, as these core wounds, are not ‘fixed’ by intellectual insight alone. They are deeply embedded subconscious wounds, that require considerable self compassion to deal with. Another issue for me and many complex trauma survivors – self compassion.
It’s all an ongoing healing process.