Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

My trust issues, are not about what is ‘wrong’ with me..

Sunset Woman

I get so sick of assumptions, that there is something ‘wrong’ with people with PTSD, or Complex PTSD.

After all the abuse, lies and harm I have endured, from birth, from all significant people in my life, including over the last 2 years…I would be a ‘fool’ not to have trust issues.

Not because I think everyone is a liar, who will hurt me.

But, because I know there are many who are liars, who cause harm.

Getting over trust issues regarding

one person harming you…

is very different to dealing with the

harm caused by as many abusive people

as I have endured in my life.

Bottom line, I trust no-one.

Never have and probably never will.

My subconscious need to protect myself, is far greater, than my need to potentially allow myself to get harmed again.

And I have tried and been burned, badly. Continue reading

When Narcissists Claim to be Victims of Narcissists – Who is the Narcissist?

An Upturned Soul

NPD - ELizabeth Bowen

If you’re searching online for information about Narcissists, Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Narcissistic parents, being a Child of Narcissists, an ACoN – Adult Child of Narcissists, being in a relationship with a Narcissist, being a Victim of a Narcissist, How to Play the Narcissist’s Game and maybe win, How to Piss a Narcissist Off (which is one of the most popular search terms in my stats), or any other variation on the theme, you will be inundated with results.

The subject of Narcissism is trending, a Hot Topic.

The internet is bursting with information about it, from professionals, experts in the field, and from people like me who are sharing their experiences and working their way through them publicly.

Why share your private story publicly?

If your particular Narcissist has managed to isolate you and surround you with people who are on their side, then the chances are that…

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Receiving Vindication…feels a relief and good…..and that is okay.


It is okay to feel very relived and very happy, when you are vindicated of wrong doing, of people’s lies, slander and your name being trashed.

It is horrible to go through these painful times, where you are being attacked, cyber bullied, abused, lied about – where people are harming you, and other people are believing it too.

And they are all wrong.

Being vindicated is good, it is good prevailing, and it *is* okay to feel good about it.

It is truth, light and goodness prevailing,

after much darkness had previously attempted victory.

And again, I do not have to justify this to anyone. They do not know what I endured, how it affected me, affected my healing, the anxiety and stress it caused me.

They don’t know my heart motivation, and my reasons for doing what it is they chose to harm me about. Continue reading

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It is okay, to feel good about our achievements/gifts/strengths ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

A post to my community page 🙂
Over the last few months, I have been diligently beavering away, updating my Website, making it more user friendly, adding heaps of info.

(Website @ http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/ )

I am happy with how it is now looking and thankful it helps many, and I am pleased with my achievement. It doesn’t mean I think it is the best, or is amazing, or anything of that nature. At all.

But, it is the best *I* can provide and I *am okay* with that.

We often have been programmed through abuse, to not believe anything good about ourselves, to feel like saying something is a strength, or an achievement, is not okay. Is wrong.

I still have issues about feeling anything good about myself – but I am working on it 😉

It isn’t wrong.
We all have strengths, we all have gifts.
And it is *okay’ to acknowledge that.

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