Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


I now need to stop obsessing over my website, tweaking everything…

I have spent many, many hours over my website recently, uploading info, adding video’s, amending settings, trying to figure out techie stuff that drives me nuts….simply because I am not good at it all. I was born in the 70’s….we didn’t have I.T., as they do now in school – in prep – as my 5 year old raves about every Wednesday.

I have learned about google SEO’s, H1 tags, search phrase density and much more….all very new to me….and tweaked and tweaked and tweaked my website – far more I’m sure, than is necessary.

Who needs ‘Setting Up A Website For Dummies’ – when you can just obsess for hours and learn it all by trial and error!

The worst part, is everything I change, often throws the entire website out and then I have to go and change every page – and there are a lot of pages now!

Maybe, I do need the ‘For Dummies’ book…. after all…

But then, I never did give myself an easy time….hmmm…


I have been very surprised to know mental health professionals are wanting to give me great reviews and feedback, so that is amazing. And I am so thankful for them, being prepared to supply that. Continue reading

‘Focus on a positive attitude’ – not wise advice for healing abuse survivors.

I know the ‘positivity fountains’ will be spluttering at how wrong I am…but I am not.
Focussing only on a ‘positive attitude’ is not actually wise advice, for unhealed, or healing survivors of abuse.
And my insight into this, has been validated by mental health professionals, as correct.
Unhealed wounds, never heal, if suppressed and avoided by ‘looking for the positives’.
And I know from personal experience, it only makes it worse, long term.
Lilly ❤

Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

Society promotes the whole ‘focus on a positive attitude’ as being the answer for anything.

Church people like to do focus on ‘count your blessings’.

Neither of these are helpful, or appropriate advice to give to people who are trying to heal severe abuse and trauma. All these do, is avoid suppress, ignore the emotions needed to process the trauma, the emotions needed to grieve. Suppression is never healthy when it comes to abuse and trauma.

How do I know this….because I did it myself for 20 years. And it made my current situation worse.

I did what society and unwise people demand – moved on, got over it, made a life, tried to never think about my past, worked hard, exercised hard, focussed on enjoying myself blah blah blah…

And all that did was suppress the deeply painful emotions and severe trauma, that needed to have been dealt with…

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