This was a message to my Facebook page, from a wonderful, courageous women, who is still battling her abuser, via the courts and found the strength and courage to stand up for herself, because she felt supported, by my community.
I had tears reading this, tears of love, for this lady and I am So proud of her! ❤ ❤ ❤
“I am amazed at your courage Lilly. This page has made a huge difference in my life. Yesterday I had such a hard day and I had posted on here. I had not read your reply yet as I had to go, but I knew you would post one because I read this page all the time.
When I sat in front of two lawyers yesterday who were just doing their job “without much empathy…” in my opinion, I kept thinking….”some one cares…some one gets it…….and thought of this page, Lilly and the group”…..I cannot tell you the strength it gave me to quietly speak up for myself, I felt like you were all there with me.
I cried a bit, I always do……while I speak, as I get overwhelmed and triggered…and the lawyers were scrambling for tissues and saying things like “OH,,,you seem so overly distressed, you have to see some one for that…you need professional help and support”…………..and I calmly said “actually, I think I am on par with my distress level for what I have been through, and as the expert of myself, feel comfortable with that…thanks”…..
I refuse to be scapegoated as the “unstable one” anymore when people without empathy feel the need or the…….intent to project their “stuff and fear of breakdown” onto me.
This page gave me the strength yesterday….please know Lilly, you cannot even imagine the difference you and all your tribe make on this page, it feels like home. Thank you