Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

The power of kind, compassionate words, where people feel understood, believed, safe and supported.


This was a message to my Facebook page, from a wonderful, courageous women, who is still battling her abuser, via the courts and found the strength and courage to stand up for herself, because she felt supported, by my community.

I had tears reading this, tears of love, for this lady and I am So proud of her! ❤ ❤ ❤


 “I am amazed at your courage Lilly. This page has made a huge difference in my life. Yesterday I had such a hard day and I had posted on here. I had not read your reply yet as I had to go, but I knew you would post one because I read this page all the time.

When I sat in front of two lawyers yesterday who were just doing their job “without much empathy…” in my opinion, I kept thinking….”some one cares…some one gets it…….and thought of this page, Lilly and the group”…..I cannot tell you the strength it gave me to quietly speak up for myself, I felt like you were all there with me.

I cried a bit, I always do……while I speak, as I get overwhelmed and triggered…and the lawyers were scrambling for tissues and saying things like “OH,,,you seem so overly distressed, you have to see some one for that…you need professional help and support”…………..and I calmly said “actually, I think I am on par with my distress level for what I have been through, and as the expert of myself, feel comfortable with that…thanks”…..

I refuse to be scapegoated as the “unstable one” anymore when people without empathy feel the need or the…….intent to project their “stuff and fear of breakdown” onto me.

This page gave me the strength yesterday….please know Lilly, you cannot even imagine the difference you and all your tribe make on this page, it feels like home. Thank you

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx “


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “The power of kind, compassionate words, where people feel understood, believed, safe and supported.

  1. LOVE this woman’s response to the lawyers! Brilliant!

    • I know, I do too – absolutely amazing!

      I am so proud of her and she is such an inspiration to others – to know it is okay to stand up for yourself, for your emotions and not be disrespected, not be spoken down to and have her emotions minimized or consider inappropriate.

      I had tears when I read it (I cry with any intense emotions) just because I am so deeply thankful when survivors are showing such healing and such courage.

      Incredible woman, amazing strength and such an inspiration and model of hope!

      • I agree – I don’t know if I could do it. She had to be incredibly centered and know that she was okay – exactly as she was – despite the negative feedback she was getting by multiple, powerful people in the room. If that’s not overcoming her past, what is? Wow.

        That’s something to aspire to for me: really, truly, having your own back because you deserve it, and there’s nothing inherently wrong with you. If she can do it…

        Thanks for this amazing blog – what a great start to my day!! I’ve been looking for a community of folks to share / progress along with.