Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It is quite bizarre, how much crap you get, for being someone willing to expose harmful people.


We truly do live a perpetrator protecting society.

Exposing an abusive person is considered by some, to be ‘drama’….

I don’t think the future victims, would see it that way, if they were able to know what you protected them from. I think they would be very thankful someone stepped up and dealt with it.

I find the levels of egocentricity, selfishness, lack of moral courage, lack of integrity to do right, willingness to ignore abuse, and avoid any social or emotional responsibility to do something….really hard to deal with.

I’ve dealt with people walking all over me, all my life.

Now, I don’t. I don’t look for it, but If ‘drama’ – abuse/harm – comes my way, I will deal with it. And I do get crap in return for this. Bizarre.

Why can’t people see that this is wisdom, this is compassion for future victims, this is moral/social integrity, this is helping to reduce abuse and being unselfish?

I know why. Because they lack those virtues, those abilities within themselves, so they seek to bring you down instead. It helps justify their own lack, their own selfish needs.

People are bizarre, they really are.

How in their heads, they can interpret being someone with courage and integrity – into someone who is wrong – is beyond my understanding – I don’t have that sort of selfish, shallow thoughts/integrity/wisdom level.

You know in this society, you are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t…

I will ignore the apaths, the weak, the shallow, the unwise, the lack of moral integrity…..and just do what I do.

And realise, on this more challenging path, there will be fewer with me than there would, if I were on the path going in the opposite direction, with all the sheep.

It’s easy to follow with the sheep.

Not easy, to stand out from the crowd and do what’s right.  

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “It is quite bizarre, how much crap you get, for being someone willing to expose harmful people.

  1. I have an idea of why people are so eager to blame the victim — doing otherwise would mean that they have to identify with you. And doing that makes people face the scary truth that they, too, are vulnerable to abuse. It would mean that they are no different than you and that what happened to you may happen to them, and it is not in their control. Humans fear uncertainty and the potential of future harm.

    Validating and believing you (which your other readers and I of course do) is terrifying to those who haven’t experienced abuse. It’s an admission that it could happen to them. So it’s easier for onlookers to maintain the convenient illusion that it’s you and your fault.

    And – I can’t quite fault those maintaining convenient illusions. I have many such illusions – for example, that the train I’m on will reach safely and on time. Reality says I have no guarantee that that’s true. But anytime I get mad at being late, that’s evidence of the convenient illusion I’m maintaining.

    Just my $0.02. Feel free to ignore / not post if this isn’t helpful to you.

  2. Hi, i thought you might find this article interesting http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/aug/29/-sp-untold-story-culture-of-shame-ruzwana-bashir it has so many similarities with what you say about how reluctant people are to face up to things like this going on around us – i live in england, so different country / culture / communities – but the same bizarre desparation to protect and cover up for those responsible for causing so much misery is described in this newspaper article as you have written about on here from your own personal experiences. all i can say is that i am so glad that people like yourself and ruzwana have the courage to stand up and do what is right regardless of the pressure from others; it is a brave thing to do and i admire and am thankful for it. it validates and empowers others to follow suit, and together people are strong and can end the misery for future generations.