I have added 4 TED talks to my Website @ http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/#!shame-guilt-blame/clyd
I believe you do need to have vulnerability, to have courage and I wrote about this today..
“Courage, is only formed, by allowing yourself to be vulnerable.”
Whether it be going into a burning house to try to save someone’s life, to tell the truth about something that you did wrong, or expose an abuser.
Each situation, means you need courage, to do something right and face something potentially unpleasant and negative that could happen to you.
So, you have to become vulnerable to do this.
People who lie, which is abuse, have no courage. (and I don’t mean lying in a situation of danger).
People who are bystanders and do nothing to help people in need, have no courage.
People who ignore people who are abusing and harming others, have no courage.
In each situation, they don’t want to risk themselves, don’t want to be vulnerable, or just have no empathy or compassion.
Being vulnerable, is seen as a weakness by most of society.
So are unwilling to be vulnerable at times it is needed, and won’t do something requiring courage – in order to do what’s right and needed.
It takes courage and vulnerability, to be an authentic, honest, genuine person.