Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

So blessed with another amazing Website/Blog/Twitter Review from a Professional.

I am very blessed to receive such amazing reviews from mental health professionals.

To have professionals validate, encourage, commend and recommend my Website, authored by myself, is wonderful – for the visitors to the Website to know the info and insight is quality, and helps me, in my healing journey too.

Received this review today.

WEBSITE REVIEW:  healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com

For: Lilly Hope Lucario – September 2014

From: John Henden

This easy-to-navigate website is a great resource for those recovering from PTSD.  Created by Lilly Hope Lucario, a fellow survivor, her stated purpose is:  “… to assist people in their healing on their complex trauma journey; for those supporting someone they know; or wishing to educate themselves further about complex post-traumatic stress disorder & complex trauma.”

The website is both informative and provides practical advice for survivors around symptom management, such that they can recover and live full and active lives.  By way of encouragement for survivors, there are many inspirational pictures and sayings: 

“Smooth seas never made a skilled sailor”; and “Either you stay in the shallow end of the pool or you decide to go out into the ocean”; and “Not all wounds are visible… But just because they are unseen, does not make them less painful.“

As a survivor of complex trauma myself (having lived 8 of my 9 lives!), I have been working as a solution focused psychotherapist for survivors or post-traumatic stress and complex trauma for nearly 20 years.  I would have no hesitation in recommending this rare website to my clients and other specialist colleagues working in the field.

Lilly is an avid blogger, too, having received over a dozen blog awards and more than a quarter of a million hits to her blog site.  Her twitter account (@HealingCPTSD) plays a large role in the overall helping service she provides.  Both her blogs and her twitter feed can be accessed via this website. Continue reading

Very blessed & thankful for the amazing professionals reviews on my website :)



Feedback emailed or via Social Media.

From: Pete Walker M.A. MFT – www.pete-walker.com/  

Mental Health Professional/Psychotherapist/Author/Survivor

Highly insightful into Complex PTSD, provided feedback on this Website and my work.

Date: 14/07/14

I perused your website and it looks great. I commend you for the wonderful  work you are doing, and should you ever want to use any of my stuff on your site, please feel free .

It’s great to know you are out there. Please keep up the great work.

From: Ian Kanbel – www.queenslandmentalhealth.com/

Mental Health Advocate & Ambassador/Speaker for Beyond Blue

Date: 01/09/14 

I have been a mental health advocate for 15 years. I am amazed at both the quality of information and the obvious passion and committtment shown at www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/ to improving the lives of those living with PTSD.

The site covers everything from what is PTSD through complex PTSD and then delivers amazing clear, concise and powerful coping techniques that I am sure will benefit anyone who reads it. The social proof of the value and understanding shown on the site is evident in the massively engaged and supportive communities on Twitter & Facebook.

 If you are living with PTSD or are supporting someone diagnosed with PTSD I strongly recommend you check out www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/ ASAP.  

Have a look around and a good read. I am 100% certain you will find yourself more educated and informed and better able to deal with all aspects of PTSD.



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I heard “never admit you are wrong” from the psychopath many times.

During the 4 years, I was subjected to severe abuse daily from a psychopath, I learned a lot about how he thought. I needed to, to keep myself safe. I needed to learn his patterns, all his cues for violence, how to pacify him as best I could, all to try and keep as safe as I could and keep myself alive.

I subconsciously did this, it wasn’t a planned action. I’d already learned how to do this with skill, due to all the abuse in the previous 16 years of my life.

It is why I am skilled at picking up on cues, red flags and also can work people out.

One of his favourite sayings, outside of the abuse, was ‘never admit you are wrong, never back down, never let someone beat you’.

I know these are typical psychopath beliefs. They believe it is weakness, to admit you are wrong. To own mistakes, is weakness in their very twisted, very unhealthy, messed up minds.

And they lack any empathy, or conscience, or remorse – to care about the harm they inflict, so this increases their capacity to never admit wrongdoing.

It is also why they can lie so easily.

When I saw this, it reminded me immediately of the psychopath, because it is exactly what he would say. They believe life is like a game to win, or lose. Bizarre. They believe you are only ‘against’ them, because you are weak. This twitter tweet, is from man charged with 5 counts of suspicion of fraud, who is also a serial abuse/stalker. Which is also traits of the psychopath I was abused by.

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He thinks life is a game, to win or lose. He ‘scores’ his victories too. Stating things like Me – 10 – v – Her 0.

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PTSD in the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse

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PTSD The Breakaway

Victims of Narcissistic abuse almost always leave the relationship with PTSD and/or C-PTSD.  These acronyms stand for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

PTSD results from experiencing a devastatingly stressful event or series of events.  C-PTSD is similar, resulting from persistent psychological trauma within an environment in which the victim believes there’s no possibility of escape.  There is a perceived sense of helplessness and one’s sense of self is annihilated.

Victims of Narcissistic abuse experience both.  Let’s say Judy is in a relationship with a Narcissist.  Because of brainwashing, the breakdown of her friendships, and constant verbal abuse, she now believes she is worthless and no one else would be interested in her.  Additionally, the last two times she tried to leave, she was stalked, harassed, and intimidated until she came back.  In her mind, there is no escape.  She is experiencing C-PTSD.

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Michelle Obama, says Beyonce is a great role model…..really!?


I have been quite disappointed in Beyoncé’s demise into needing to be half naked, and writhe around in video’s in a highly sexual manner, which has become a common theme of hers now.

Now, I like Beyoncé, I like some of her music. I don’t think she is a bad person, in any way. But, since getting married, she has for some reason, changed and not all for the better, at all. 

But is this really the ‘message’ we want to send our youth, teenagers etc? 

Do we want girls to believe you have to act like that and be half naked, to be attractive and be like our favourite role model?


Do we want boys to believe this is what girls should be doing and to sexualise them, from such a young age.

Quite frankly, this seriously disappoints me, that someone like Michelle Obama could consider this type of behaviour, to be role model material.

It all feeds in to women being treated as sexual objects and men can treat them as such.

It all feeds in to rape culture and abuse of women being acceptable, condonable, justifiable. Continue reading

I am researching spiritual abuse/perpetrator protecting within organised Christianity.

These links have given me a lot of food for thought.