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I heard “never admit you are wrong” from the psychopath many times.

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During the 4 years, I was subjected to severe abuse daily from a psychopath, I learned a lot about how he thought. I needed to, to keep myself safe. I needed to learn his patterns, all his cues for violence, how to pacify him as best I could, all to try and keep as safe as I could and keep myself alive.

I subconsciously did this, it wasn’t a planned action. I’d already learned how to do this with skill, due to all the abuse in the previous 16 years of my life.

It is why I am skilled at picking up on cues, red flags and also can work people out.

One of his favourite sayings, outside of the abuse, was ‘never admit you are wrong, never back down, never let someone beat you’.

I know these are typical psychopath beliefs. They believe it is weakness, to admit you are wrong. To own mistakes, is weakness in their very twisted, very unhealthy, messed up minds.

And they lack any empathy, or conscience, or remorse – to care about the harm they inflict, so this increases their capacity to never admit wrongdoing.

It is also why they can lie so easily.

When I saw this, it reminded me immediately of the psychopath, because it is exactly what he would say. They believe life is like a game to win, or lose. Bizarre. They believe you are only ‘against’ them, because you are weak. This twitter tweet, is from man charged with 5 counts of suspicion of fraud, who is also a serial abuse/stalker. Which is also traits of the psychopath I was abused by.

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He thinks life is a game, to win or lose. He ‘scores’ his victories too. Stating things like Me – 10 – v – Her 0.

The reality and truth, is actually the opposite. It takes great courage, to be honest, truthful and admit when wrong.

And having had 20 years of being subjected to people who all went with this twisted thinking, I grew to hate it and vowed I would never be like them.

And I’m not.

I am aware, I am the opposite of these people. I willingly admit when wrong, I feel remorse, I have empathy and I don’t lie.

But, I sure do know, when I am in the presence of someone capable of these behaviours – all being the opposite of courage and inner strength.

I’ve sadly, had much experience of these highly abusive people.

And ‘know’ them and how they think and what they do, far better, than anyone should ever have to.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “I heard “never admit you are wrong” from the psychopath many times.

  1. He is such an ass.
    He don’t have empathy and cares about argument. Just make sure you don’t lose yourself. And take care.