I am very sensitive about his now.
As soon as I sense anyone, is heading down the ‘excuses’ ‘justification’ ‘abuser protecting’ road….
I avoid them like the plague. I will just block, delete and ignore them.
I live in reality. I know the reality, I have endured too many abusive people. They knew what they were doing, they knew it was wrong. They made choices. The lied. They denied.
And they fucked up my entire life with severe abuse over decades.
So right now, if anyone wants to start flaunting their views contrary to this, in my face….I either want to cry, start feeling fear, or want to tell them that their views are further abuse to me and how dare they feel entitled to do that and go try developing some empathy. The latter doesn’t happen often, because there is no point. They won’t listen anyway.
Why I am so sensitive about this.
Because I have dealt with this crap MY ENTIRE FUCKING LIFE.
Including recently from a pile of weak, pathetic, abusive, church perpetrator protectors.
I don’t have to tolerate people’s ignorance, lack of insight, re-traumatizing abuse survivors, desire to live in denial, minimizing abuse to make it seem more ‘palatable’, cheap grace, making excuses for abusers, enabling abusers, perpetrator protecting, or believe any other shit they choose that makes ‘their’ lives easier.
And I won’t.