I don’t care what religion, nationality, race, sexuality, gender etc….
I just want to help people who are suffering, from abuse and trauma – they should never endured and never deserved.
I’ve always known, this is my calling.
My email is now really blowing up….messages via my website, all the notifications from Tumblr, my Twitter followers have jumped up a lot, and my views here on this Blog are now well over 1000 every day. Continue reading →
A few years back, I very clearly remember hearing a whole sermon from a senior pastor at an abusive church, led by abusive, narc/sociopath types….about children..
The message was how children are *not* the most important work we have and they were considered only after a pile of other ‘more important’ priorities.
Well, I knew that was wrong, and was amongst so many wrong messages spewed at that church.
They just want to justify why they neglect their children, along with justifying and enabling all the child abuse; spanking, hitting children from babies onwards, hitting them belts etc as teenagers, shaming them, neglecting them, emotional abuse, spiritual abuse of saying ‘God wants them hurt’ – all abuse. 100%
It is so obvious to me how people
will always find any crap to
justify abusing their children
and preach to others to do the same.
And that happens in abusive churches a lot.
Especially those hard line, right wing, low empathy, low EQ, & low IQ, types of churches, where so much of what they think, is a massive amount of cognitive distortion, about mind control, abusive inner systems and crowd control. Where narcissistic, misogynistic, sociopathic, psychopathic, types of people ‘thrive’…..and worse…breed. Continue reading →
I am owning my story. And it is really fucking painful. It makes me want to die at times, it is that painful.
My story has been denied, lied about and minimized by so many people. People don’t want to accept truth and reality.
I am courageous enough, to accept it, and all it’s vile, evilness. The burning truth of my life, is profound. I have been willing to make myself vulnerable, to do this, which is the greatest courage of all.
My inner child, is proud of me.
She is being listened to, heard,
loved, accepted, validated,
and protected…by me now.
This is a journey I am on and is strengthening over time.
I am also learning to have self compassion and self worth and heal my core inner wounds. Part of this, is to not allow anyone else to disrespect my healing, me, my wise old soul or, my hurt inner child. Having been abused in so many ways, I reject anyone else doing this now. Continue reading →
Trauma bonding occurs more than is realised and people unfairly judge people for staying in abusive relationships.
I stayed in an abusive marriage and forgave, over and over.
I did get out in the end. Safely.
But, I do not judge others for being in abusive relationships as I know the psychological reasons.
I do always hope victims of abuse, will find a safe way out.
They say that when you get burned by fire you don’t put your hand in the hot oven again. But that’s not necessarily the case. Sometimes, it’s the fact of being burned that emotionally bonds you to an abuser. In fact, studies show that emotional abuse intermixed with small acts of kindness can bond some victims to their abusers even more than consistent good treatment can. So far I’ve used the word “victim” to describe the women (or men) who suffer at the hands of psychopaths. Yet I don’t really like this word for several reasons. It tends to imply a certain passivity, as if the woman herself had nothing to do with the decision to get involved with the psychopath or, worse yet, to stay with him even once his mask of sanity started to slip. It’s rare that a psychopath physically coerces a woman to get involved with…