The term ‘Victim’ – has been turned into something ‘shameful’ – which is more abuse.

September 13, 2014 by Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

Society has done a really good job of turning the word ‘victim’ into something to be ‘shamed’ about.

Which is more abuse.

That’s what people targeted & conned by fakes, frauds, abusers, narcs, sociopaths, paedophiles, sex offenders and all types of abusers etc are…victims.

I have been a victim to many.

Now I am a survivor, but at the time I was being hurt/harmed/lied to – I was a victim. 

This is where a lack of empathy and lack of compassion, becomes very evident. Only people who lack these, choose to ‘shame’ victims/survivors of abuse. And this hurts and harms us more.

The word victim, is **nothing**

to be ashamed of.

I have no issue with saying I was a victim. If I get hurt by another abusive person, I would at that time, be a victim again.

Society ‘shames’ victims.

And then inturn, minimizes

the harm the abusers, cause.

I reject this.

It is all part of the ‘shaming’ abuse victims….

victim blaming…. perpetrator protecting…

bullshit/abuse….that society promotes. 

All shaming victims of abuse does, is cause them to suppress all their needed emotion/trauma processing and they never heal. They internalise it all and unknowingly, it affects the rest of their life.

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The only people who should feel the shame

– are the ones who caused the abuse

and those who knew about his and

did nothing to help the victim.

End of.

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And it is very clear to me, how victim shaming, is designed to help/aid/enable abusers.