“Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom.
But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative.
She approaches the task of early adulthood――establishing independence and intimacy――burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships.
I am absolutely terrible at maintaining any forms of self care.
I know intellectually what most are…..and yet I am unable to maintain them.
I guess it’s like the opposite of those who are obsessed with exercise, health, image, beauty, and being so concerned about self. Continue reading