Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

My family of origin….were always more scared than they were ever capable of realising.

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A post to my page…


“I’ve been called over-sensitive, a drama queen, attention seeker, liar, all my life by my family of origin.

What I now realise, is how scared ‘they’ were, for someone to have the strength to stand up and speak the truth about the family secrets and all their deep issues.

And they didn’t want to lose the scapegoat, the one to blame, shame, put down and hurt…as was my family role.

That is not my role anymore.”

~ Lilly Hope Lucario


I know now, they saw me as a threat, because I was always different to them. I had a strength, need for honesty and goodness within me they didn’t possess and that reflected badly on them. But they could not bare to consider that, so attacked me instead.

I scared them. I made them nervous.

So they worked really hard to make sure I hated myself and no-one around me, would see me as a credible person.

How sad.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “My family of origin….were always more scared than they were ever capable of realising.

  1. No matter how dark and murky things get when you feel trapped and discouraged by a web of lies, stand firm and hold fast to the wisdom that in the end, the truth will always shine through it, no matter what, it always wins. You cant trump the truth. No energy needs to spent to uphold the truth either, spend precious energy on self care and trying to move on, do new things. Well, its my little philosophy for my life at the moment.