Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Society is the problem and the disease… forcing sexual abuse & child sexual abuse survivors, to suffer more.



Being someone who is willing to be very open, raw and real about the society ‘taboo subject’ most don’t want to acknowledge – sexual abuse – and ‘worse’ child sexual abuse – makes me an unusual person.

I am someone openly shunned, ignored, cast aside by ‘friends’, feeling further abandonment, adding to the devastating trauma, crushing and debilitating weight of shame, rejection and pain so many abuse survivors endure. All of which, we should never be made to feel.

I read this in the latest addition of very popular local Child & Parenting magazine..

“A society that nourishes the silence of survivors through a refusal to accept the truth and show compassion towards them, is a disease as devastating as the abuse itself.” – written by Zara – child & adult sexual abuse survivor.

Being shunned, ignored, blamed, rejected, avoided, silenced….means abuse survivors are repeatedly re-traumatised by society.

We are forced to feel as though ‘we’ are the problem and should remain quiet….but it is the disease of society…that is the problem.

Not us.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “Society is the problem and the disease… forcing sexual abuse & child sexual abuse survivors, to suffer more.

  1. Denial is a big problem in wider society. Lots of things get brushed under the rug. Its not right.

  2. Thanks for this post I completely agree and know the very same feeling. We live in a shallow, material, rat race, addicted, fascade of a culture. Society believes bad things like terrifying childhood rape and sexual abuse only happen to bad people who deserve it. So when we tell people ‘I’m recovering from complex PTSD as a result of childhood abuse’, they are a bit shocked and offended – this is what vibe I get ‘how dare you shatter my illusion of a good and safe world – who do you think you are to do that to me- you’re a disgrace for bringing up something so inappropriate with me – I don’t want to hear or know about anything horrific or disturbing – I don’t care if it’s true! You must be lying – that’s not possible – you’re crazy -you’re weird – you should be ashamed of yourself for not being like the rest of us!’. I’ve started to tell more and more people the basics of my story. If I had a stroke, had cancer, had a degenerative motor neuron disease, lost use of my legs etc people would be more open, more encouraging, more willing to bring over frozen dinners and talk about how courageous I am to survive and get through it. 1/10 people with Complex PTSD kill themselves. The only way to breakthrough the matrix of shame, blame, ignorance and compounding oppression from being victims/survivors of childhood sexual violence is to share in the most palatable way possible. I now say when people ask me ‘How are you?’ ‘What have you been doing? – ‘I’m recovering from complex PTSD as a result of serious childhood sexual violence by a male neighbour I’m open about this to raise awareness of the long term affects for millions of people who experience this and to start to breakdown the stigma surrounding it – how are you – what have you been doing?’…….

    • Wow for real. This is what I want to say but have never had the guts. I’ve been having so many death thoughts lately I an proud to still be alive.

  3. Society doesn’t help by being so much in denial. Then there are the industries that rely on victims to make money. I believe people can be healed but those in control wont let it happen whilst everyone else buries their heads in the sand….unless they are directly affected they will believe anything they are told and usually side with those who spin the lies. Denial borne out of fear. Writing about it is very powerful in two ways. It releases the emotional hurt and brings to light what has happened forall to see.

  4. I’m scared of being open but I really want to reach out and stand up. Not just for me but my inner child and for future children. How do you do it. How do I be honest with myself let alone others.