I cannot at the moment, tolerate people with very unhealthy minds and attitudes and I can now appropriately -, remove them from my life. I don’t wish them harm, I don’t hate them. I accept they have issue and I have empathy, but their particular issues are very triggering and upsetting to me. For huge reasons.
And even in the future, they are not the types of people, I will choose to have in my life. Because I have had too many unhealthy, hurtful people cause me harm. Too much chaos, too much abuse, too much manipulation, too many lies etc.
People will have to meet a certain level of healthiness to be in my life, from now on.
So, I have decided to see this as something similar to a comment I saw..
‘I can accept there are people in this world who have issues, I accept they have reasons for that, they still have value……but I don’t need to invite them into my home for dinner.’
In other words, my home (life) is my safe place. Certain people are welcome into my safe place (my life), and some aren’t and they can stay outside, and I will just let them walk on by.
I only ‘choose’ to open the door of my safe space to people I can have some level of feeling safe enough with and invite into my home.
For anyone I am not inviting in, I don’t need be concerned about their issues, they are not my responsibility and be aware they are outside, they are not affecting me.
This is a good way of viewing this for me, because my home literally is my safe place, so it is easy for me to visualise this, into being about my life in general.
I have to fully admit, there are certain types of people I am struggling to find any sense of ‘value’ in…..but, they are outside of my safe place now…and are not my concern.
I don’t have to see their value, or think about what that might be, I leave that to Jesus.