Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Trauma/abuse survivors, are all brave, all the time.

A needed message for my community today ❤


We are all equally brave ❤

I often receive comments and messages about how brave I am to write about my journey and about the abuse and share it all.

Please know….we are all brave….at every point of our journey.

No matter whether it is enduring the trauma, trying to come to terms with it, getting through each day whilst in emotional pain, seeking help, starting to process it, starting to talk about it, starting to write it down…

Wherever we are at……we are all brave, every minute of every day.

I suppressed all my worst trauma for 20 years. I was still being brave because I had no support, no-one I could talk to.

I had a breakdown 2 yeas ago due to how long I suppressed so much trauma. Then I had no choice but start dealing with it.

I still cannot verbalise in counselling – 2 years later – about the worst stuff. I am not able to get the words out. Some of my trauma stuff is ‘parked’ – to be dealt with later. And that is okay. It is a journey.

Little steps at time.

No-one is any more brave, or any less brave than anyone else.

We are all brave, we all have courage to survive horrible things.

Lilly ❤

I will continue to write about this, as I am not okay with these ‘shaming’ messages that if we are not ‘strong’, ’empowered’ and showing this to the world….then we are inferior, weak and worthless.

I strongly oppose society’s ‘shaming’ messages.

I strongly oppose society’s unhealthy beliefs.
Society having these wrong beliefs, is creating more shame and more ego issues – by telling people they have to be a success, you must be an extrovert, show your strength to the world. Collect your recognitions, your awards, your trophies – puff up your pride and only determine your ‘success’ – by what the world values you by.
And only then will you be society’s idea of ‘brave’, ‘courageous’ and a success.
BS. And it takes real insight and wisdom to realise how wrong this all is.
Brene Browns work on shame, really opened my eyes to this. We are a society built on an epidemic of increasing shame and increasing ego.
That is not healthy. At all.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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