Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Regarding Mark Driscoll being forced to resign & immature opinions, I must remember the stages of faith.



My previous counsellor, explained to me how my lack of understanding why so many church people think the way they do and why I felt like I was in high school, was due to this.

She identified me as going into stage 5, where most church people will remain at stage 3, all their lives. It was huge moment of clarity to see this.

And she explained how those at stage 3, don’t know anything more, so will reject anything outside of their own understanding, their own needs and what suits them and their earthly desires. Their rejection is their ego, even if they don’t see that.

There are also many church leaders, who will actively want stage 3 churches, as it is easier for flock control and they don’t get questioned, challenged etc.

I see clearly how this shows a huge lack of understanding spiritual faith.

So, when challenged on my views about people like Driscoll and his ‘cult-like’ church behaviours, I MUST remember, I am dealing with those at stage 3. And if they choose not to look inward and challenge their own thinking, their own understanding of the Bible etc…..that is their own sin to deal with.

I don’t consider myself better than anyone, but I do clearly see how all these issues, lead to wrong teachings, and further sin.

I do also accept I have been willing to be open and honest to see more, understand more and grow and develop more.

Which takes courage and a lack of ego.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Regarding Mark Driscoll being forced to resign & immature opinions, I must remember the stages of faith.

  1. This is very helpful, thankyou

    It also explains the feeling of being lonely and alienated, there are plenty of sheep but not many get to jump over the fence. Worse, I think some of them try and haul me back to the otherside!

    • I have come to accept they just don’t know any different and don’t understand further.

      They will also view those at stage 4 and above as ‘backsliding’ in faith, because they can’t challenge their own views/beliefs.

      But, the reality is, we have progressed further. Sadly too many of these people are also church leaders, so the flock will never grow.