Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


My Blog views, passed 300,000 today :)


Considering I write about yucky/taboo stuff, this is a really high level of views, showing the need for raw, real, honest writing.

I am thankful this Blog is viewed a lot and helps many people.

The views have increased from 140,000 in May 2014, to now over 300,000..in the just the last 5 months!

Blessed to bless others. Thank you God ❤

It is also interesting, that for all those in my life, who abused me, made me feel worthless, made me feel stupid etc…

They were all wrong….I do have the capacity to be and give something worthwhile and my work is encouraged and validated by professionals in the field.

So, please never assume the opinions of unhealthy, abusive, dysfunctional people, are correct.

Lilly ❤


Amazing TED talk about compassion.

I’ve always known that when people do things for others….to feel good about themselves….this is narcissism, and nothing to do with empathy, compassion, or altruism.

I’ve seen many people ‘doing good’ for others…..but really it is for themselves.

They won’t admit that of course.

Empathy is rare.

I’m always glad when my psychology understanding, is validated by professionals.


Good childhood memories, of playing with a relatives dogs.

I try hard to hold onto positive childhood memories.

I didn’t have a pet I could play with like a dog or cat. We had (completely untamed) budgies – because that’s what my sister wanted. I called my budgie ‘flopsy’. I wanted a rabbit.

I think pets are wonderful for people, families and children and I know they are great for inner child healing too.

My son is allergic to pet hair, so we can’t have a dog or cat. We had to give his guinea pigs away, because after a while, he couldn’t go near them without getting sick.

This is a pic of me when I was about 5 or 6, with a relatives dogs. I have memories of playing with them and they are good memories. And I am smiling in this photo, which is good.



It is not wisdom to tell people to be proud of who they are and not change.

It is really unwise advice to tell the whole of society to ‘be who they are’.

Most people have issues, and don’t grow or mature into all they can be.

Society is becoming increasingly immature, because society promotes ‘being proud of who you are’ – even if unhealthy, nasty, bitchy, bully, egocentric, egotistic, narcissistic, immature, greedy, selfish….

Abuse of every kind is increasing throughout society, mental health problems are increasing, crime is increasing etc…..

Is it wisdom to say to society….’be proud of who you are’ ?

Clearly not. Continue reading