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My son was punched 3 times, for standing up for someone being bullied.

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My son came home from school with a swollen and bruised eye yesterday.

My son’s friend was being bullied verbally and my son told the bully to stop it, and the bully had a big rage attack and punched my son 3 times. My son didn’t react back and just went to the office and reported it, with his friends to validate what had occurred.

The school office people were nice to him, gave him ice for his eye and told him it was great self control to not react back. They asked him if he wanted to phone his parents and go home but he said he was okay and remained at school.

My children are not perfect by far, but they are learning empathy, self control, courage and how to stand up for people who are being bullied. I’ve explained he needs to also be careful, as this can happen, and bullies can get very nasty when someone has the guts to stand up to them. Told him I am proud of him and validated his self control, courage and his good heart.

I wonder what’s going on in that child’s life, for him to need to be a bully and have rage and be physically aggressive. No doubt there are issues there, probably at home. There will be a story there. I talked about that with my son too. Not to excuse what the child did in any way, but just to show not hating someone and realise that as wrong as the bullying is, there is a reason.

Abuse is never okay, never condonable and needs dealing with.

But, empathy and non hate is needed too. And I want to model that for my children.

I try to teach and model all forms of emotional intelligence.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “My son was punched 3 times, for standing up for someone being bullied.

  1. First of all, I want to commend you for bringing this issue to light. I think it is so important that we talk about bullying in order to end it. I personally know how traumatic bullying can be because a classmate of mine committed suicide when she was only 13 years old as a result of bullying.
    I think your son has an amazing spirit and a tremendous amount of will power to do the right thing and walk away. I have never personally been attacked violently or involved in any physical altercation, but I can imagine that his emotions must have been high at the time. His actions are extremely commendable.

    I also think you make a good point when you acknowledge that the bully may actually have a troubled life. Many people are unable to look past the tough facade to the root of the problem, but it is extremely common for bullies at school to be acting out on the aggression that they are shown in their home life. The sad reality is that bullies often develop their cruel behaviors as a coping mechanism for the abuse which they are facing at home. I think it is important that we take this into consideration, particularly in cases in which the bully is a minor.

    It’s really great that you’ve drawn attention to this issue. Thanks for sharing your story!
    ~Ayla

    • Thank you for your message.

      I am so sorry about the loss of your classmate due to bullying. It is such a serious issue now and I know bullying is rife throughout society within schools, workplaces, organisations, churches – everywhere.

      Bullying is abuse and sadly abuse of all kinds is increasing…..in this increasingly narcissistic world we live in.

      The children bullying often come from abusive homes, have been bullied, neglected, harmed in some way and this is very sad.