My son came home from school with a swollen and bruised eye yesterday.
My son’s friend was being bullied verbally and my son told the bully to stop it, and the bully had a big rage attack and punched my son 3 times. My son didn’t react back and just went to the office and reported it, with his friends to validate what had occurred.
The school office people were nice to him, gave him ice for his eye and told him it was great self control to not react back. They asked him if he wanted to phone his parents and go home but he said he was okay and remained at school.
My children are not perfect by far, but they are learning empathy, self control, courage and how to stand up for people who are being bullied. I’ve explained he needs to also be careful, as this can happen, and bullies can get very nasty when someone has the guts to stand up to them. Told him I am proud of him and validated his self control, courage and his good heart.
I wonder what’s going on in that child’s life, for him to need to be a bully and have rage and be physically aggressive. No doubt there are issues there, probably at home. There will be a story there. I talked about that with my son too. Not to excuse what the child did in any way, but just to show not hating someone and realise that as wrong as the bullying is, there is a reason.
Abuse is never okay, never condonable and needs dealing with.
But, empathy and non hate is needed too. And I want to model that for my children.
I try to teach and model all forms of emotional intelligence.