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Types Of Invalidation

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Invalidation, is a massive issue for many of us who have endured abuse, child abuse and trauma.
This is important for society to be aware of.


Good afternoon, Dear Readers!

If you have been in an abusive relationship of any type- whether the relationship was emotionally, physically, sexually or narcissistic abusive- then you have experienced invalidation.  Invalidation is when your feelings are mocked, judged or rejected.  It is done  to make you feel as if you are wrong, weird, abnormal or extremely flawed.  It is done in order to gain control.  When invalidation is done in childhood, the child grows up not trusting her feelings, & lacking in self confidence.

There are many ways to invalidate someone.  Some examples are:

  • Telling someone not to feel the way they do.
  • Calling someone harsh names like oversensitive, drama queen, worry wort, crybaby, etc.
  • Mocking someone for feeling a certain way.
  • Leading one to believe there is something wrong with them for feeling as they do.
  • Telling someone to look differently (example: “Stop looking so sad”).
  • Minimizing another’s feelings.
  • Isolating another, such as saying “No one…

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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  1. after years of suffering at the hands of family that terrorized me and my brother. i abuser husband and a sociopath i was dating. i have found this website from one word i was told by a therapist (HYPERVIGILANCE). That one word has started my 1st step to finding this website. i can’t believe i continue to read my life through the comments of other people and this blog. am 37 and through all this time, all these years i thought i was crazy for feeling my emotions. my downs to my triggers, my ups of hyper vigilance to attachments. my keen ability to read my environment and read people to a T. it was all factors from my abusive physically, emotionally, sexually and sociopathic deemining abuse. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for giving me some sort of clarity and guidance. i can’t believe am not the only one and am not crazy. i felt like no one understood me. 4 psycologist and NOT ONE OF THEM COULD TELL ME THIS!!!!! thats what i get for free internship clinics. i came across an experienced therapist at my school who’s suppose to be a support for my program. i had a huge anxiety attack and when he talked to me could read all what i was describing from my suffering. i am so confused, relieved, emotionally everywhere, sad, happy, tearful. I AM NOT CRAZY!!!! I never knew these were normal reactions to the abuse i endured. words cannot explain my thence you’s for finding you. i cannot stop thinking about this or stop reading this blog and comments. i cannot stop reading that i am not alone. i wish i could just hug someone and say thank you.