Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Avoidance…….a huge issue I see clearly within humanity…

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Avoidance….is a huge human issue, I see so clearly.

People avoid thinking about bad stuff in the world, to keep their lives comfortable & easy.

People avoid needed thinking about deep & meaningful issues surrounding suffering, for the same reason.

People avoid seeing &/or accept the bad in others as normal, so they don’t have to think about the bad within themselves.

Or people ‘only’ focus on the bad in others, to avoid thinking about the bad within themselves.

People avoid deep introspection, to avoid the fear and shame of what they may find.

People avoid the realities of life, with meaningless outer pursuits.

People avoid a lot…..due to fear, potential shame, and the desire for a shallow, egocentric life of ease and comfort.

And all this avoidance, means people don’t mature and don’t grow.

And all this avoidance, is encouraged and celebrated in society, which is one of many reasons why society is increasingly immature, where many adults are stuck in the adolescent maturity level of striving for ‘success’ and ‘self needs’ based lives.

Avoidance, is not healthy, or a sign of maturity, or strength.

And I see all of this, because I have had a lot of avoidance in my life, about many things.

I have avoided seeing the reality of all the abuse done to me.

I have avoided reflecting on my own issues and behaviours, until recently.

I am aware, that avoidance is never healthy, never about growth.

It takes courage and willingness, to look deep within, to look at the suffering in this world, to look at why there is suffering and not avoid that to keep life easy and comfortable, in a delusional way.

Yes, it is about balance, and approaching some things slowly and carefully, but avoiding the reality of life, the reality of who we are….is not maturity.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Avoidance…….a huge issue I see clearly within humanity…

  1. Your words are very true. We do almost anything to avoid thinking of how things really are. Busyness has become a substitute for contemplation. Distractions are everywhere – tv, social media – and it makes it easy to avoid what is really happening. I have been an avoider all my life but am slowly learning to change. Thanks for this post.