I know I am grieving. Grieving my childhood. Grieving decades of abuse. Grieving how it has so significantly affected my whole life so far. Grieving relationships, where they were abusers. My mother being the most painful.
I also know loss and grieving is not only when someone has died. My ‘mother’ died to me, as a ‘mother’ a while back. I will never have contact with her again, so in effect she is dead to me. Obviously, when she does die, I will probably grieve again.
As if this woman hasn’t caused enough trauma in my life already……
It’s like the abusive ‘gift’ that keeps on giving….
I never viewed my grieving as complicated grief.
Grief is a complicated process under normal circumstances. The more complicated (dysfunctional) the relationship, the more complicated the grief.
This ^ is from a Survivor/Therapist and I know survivors who become therapists, can often have far greater insight into the emotional needs of survivors of abuse.