I tried to explain in counselling, why I choose to attempt to educate people about the traits within abusive people, that harm others.
I do this, because I know education is needed and is the only way to help reduce abuse….and not just re-actively deal with victims and mental health issues, afterwards.
I think many counsellors, and those in the mental health arena, do just focus on dealing with re-active work. It’s like they come to an acceptance and apathetic state of knowing harm occurs, and just deal with the victims afterwards. And don’t want to talk about ‘bad’ people, especially if they are Christians and just seem to want to accept people for what they are, no matter how much harm they cause others.
I don’t want to become that person.
Yes, I want to help victims/survivors of abuse, but I want to also try to help educate people, so they can be hurt less. Pro-active work, as well.
Because, I know the effects of such devastating harm/abuse. And I had no-one ever to step in and let me know what was going on. No-one.
Because I had no-one say to me my mother is a narcissist/sociopathic person, so I suffered for decades.
Because I had no-one tell me that sexual abused children, often go on to harm themselves more, by being drawn to more narcissistic/sociopathic people, so I got hurt more.
No-one educated me, or helped me,
or let me know what was really going on.
So, I got harmed, abused and suffered,
repeatedly, over 4 decades,
and it is devastating.
And now I am having to deal with
it all, re-actively.
I so wish someone had helped me,
And no-one should endure this and if society was more educated, there would be less harm. People would get out of abusive relationships quicker, children wouldn’t see and endure abuse as much.
And that’s my motivation, my heart. And that is why I share my journey, all of it, the good the bad and the downright fucking ugly of it all.
I don’t encourage hatred, retaliation, vigilante groups, or paying evil, with evil. And, I have stated, I do not find harming others, no matter who they are, as good, positive or appropriate. That includes paedophiles, rapists, psychopaths etc.
I am aware I don’t get this right all the time and I am honest about that and I say when I have had something wrong and work it out. I am continually learning, but I am sharing all I learn, to help others.
I don’t think educating people is wrong and wanting less abuse occurring and less suffering, is wrong.
But, it’s interesting how many do feel what I do, is somehow….wrong.
And it feels like perpetrator protecting, to me. And I don’t buy into that, either.