People will make all sorts of judgments and assumptions about people, all usually self serving, or due to lack of insight and feeling entitled to make a judgment about something they don’t personally know, or because they want to consider their own journey is the only way.
I have empathy to know, no-one chooses to be a victim, or chooses to remain a victim. And I don’t have the ego, to make such judgments about people.
My own journey has taught me much, a lot about other people’s opinions and views and what the heart and reason is for their opinion.
People talk about having compassion, empathy etc, yet often show to me, they don’t. Not to level they think or wish to believe, or their ego wishes to believe.
Often this is not malicious at all, but it still hurts other people.
Victims of abuse, are shamed and blamed in so many ways, and I see it.
I see how I have done this myself in the past and I have great remorse for that.
I see my own journey has changed me greatly.
I see from knowing my own issues about judgment, and my own wrong opinions of others, that I see this in many others.
I can only put my view out there, and hope it helps someone. But, with the wisdom to understand, most will cling onto their own beliefs.
My beliefs have changed greatly, because I have a deep yearning to grow, learn and be changed, even if that means having to accept how wrong I can be, how my own views have been hurtful and caused harm.
I just want more people to do the same……..and stop hurting abuse victims more.