I read a post by one of these popular ‘positive thinking, happiness is everything’ type authors…
He basically ‘told’ someone they should be able to turn a negative experience, into a positive one….because of course, that’s what ‘he’ has done.
“Actually – some people don’t have the same capacity to cope and turn more traumatic experiences into something positive. And then they are shamed further by those who say they can and demand we all should be able to.
We live in a shame driven society, where success and being positive and happy is considered to be being strong and anything else, is weakness. We need to be very careful what we expect/demand of others, when that is simply our own ego talking.
‘Telling’ someone they have a choice, is not wise, or necessarily their own capacity, or reality – it is only ‘your’ own projection of ‘your’ capacity onto them, and could well shame them further.”
A lot of people don’t understand this………they simply believe if they and others can do XYZ and be happy…….then everyone should be able to.
Which is BS.
Yes, people can try…….but everyone’s capacity to cope…….their support…….their current stress levels……their environment……and many other factors, will all affect their ability to turn negative and traumatic experiences, into something positive and achieve happiness and positive thinking.
But, it takes real wisdom, insight, and empathy…….to understand this.
Which many fail to have.
It’s their way……..or the highway.
As per their ego.