Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

The rape jokes continue and get worse.


Social media is awash with more talk about Bill Cosby. More accusers have come forward. 29 now.

I get all the controversy about him and whether people should, or shouldn’t believe he is a sexual psychopath predator…

But what I find the hardest to deal with…….is all the people who think it’s funny and joke about rape – with all the many posters saying ‘Bill Cosby raped me too’.

And even worse….”Rape isn’t funny, it’s hilarious” …….and all the ‘likes’ comments like that get……mostly from men of course, but also from women.

It makes me cry that so many people think sexually abusing and raping women or anyone, is funny.

I’ve been raped, so many times I have no idea how many. Considering the years of being digitally raped as a child and the years of being raped as an adolescent and then the few men who didn’t stop in my 20’s…(and yes I was drunk and had let things go so far, but they got too rough and wouldn’t stop when I said stop, but I believed it was my fault)….

The amount of penetration rapes I have endured, and then the oral rapes I have endured, are probably well in excess of 1000.

Rape isn’t funny.

What kind of people think it’s funny?

It’s devastating.

I feel physically sick.

Rape. Sexual assault. Child sexual abuse. They are all horrific.

It doesn’t take much to understand how terrible it would be for the victim.

I feel so sorry for every single victim, who has to see these despicable comments all these people think are funny.

Humanity can be so disgusting and sick and worse than animals.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “The rape jokes continue and get worse.

  1. It’s disgusting how people throw the word around as if it doesn’t matter. It does fuckn matter. And to see and hear all the victim shaming makes me feel sick.
    You have endured hell so you have every right to have the opinion you do.

    • Thank you luverly ❤

      I see so much unhealthy thinking in society and I don't intend to just shrug my shoulders and say 'ah well' like many. I will always try to be one voice that explains how wrong this is and tries to appeal to some empathy.

      Victims of abuse are continually re-traumatised and harmed repeatedly and I will continue my message of how wrong that is and how it should not be ignored and enabled.

  2. Reblogged this on adifferentlifebeinglived and commented:
    Rape is not a funny story joke or word!

  3. I am with you 100% I am a childhood sexual abuse survivor and rape victim. I am also disgusted by the victim blaming and shaming. I too will not sit by and not continue to try and change peoples perceptions. Our voices matter and our stories help people to see a face behind these crimes. I will not be silenced anymore. Thank you for sharing!

  4. You might find this interesting: http://www.jsonline.com/news/education/students-rape-culture-article-sparks-free-speech-debate-b99230013z1-251784191.html In the article is a link to the high school newspaper’s protest against rape jokes. The article won awards, yet also sparked a censorship debate (which the students eventually won).