Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Do people who try to push certain views, have ‘their’ own personal reasons….?


I am very aware people often are a result of the experiences in life they have faced.

So when dealing with someone who consistently fails to show emotion about what abusive people can do and fails to understand the pain and suffering caused…..

Coupled with their continual need to term abusive people as ‘okay’ and have clear issues as to others describing them differently and more negatively….

It makes me wonder why?

Do they have issues from their own personal lives that cloud their own judgment and views? Have they had some abusive family member or someone close to them – do despicable things and so that affects their own judgment? Is that why they are so adamant abusive people should only be viewed ‘their’ way? Is this why they are so against labelling because they don’t want their own relative/friend etc…labelled? is this why they really dislike the view that people ‘protect’ and ‘enable’ abusers?

Do they have more invested in the way they think, than I realise? Is this in fact a personal issue and not actually about me at all, or what I need?

Makes me wonder and certainly if true…..answers several confusing questions in my mind.

We can all be swayed by our own experiences in life, and I don’t believe anyone is exempt from this occurring.

Problem is, when you can’t ask this question and even if you did, you know you would not receive an answer.

But, it sure makes me wonder….

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Do people who try to push certain views, have ‘their’ own personal reasons….?

  1. Dealing with this in my family right now …

    I think , in my own case, admitting the truth about what her brother (my father) did to me would force my aunt to consider her own abusive parenting, and why her son suffers from Bipolar Disorder as an adult …

    And it goes deeper than that even: she was beaten by her mother, but believes she deserved to be beaten …

    This is a deeply complicated topic; great post!


    • Thank you Tim, yes it is a complex issue.

      I think when certain things take people too close to the truth about themselves or about those close to them, they ‘need’ to view things a certain way, to cope and don’t want to face the reality.

      Which I understand, but isn’t healthy and doesn’t mean we have to view it that way, at all.