Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I think it’s needed to think about what’s healthy, and what isn’t…

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A post to my page……….as I think it is needed for people to actually think about what is healthy?

Some thoughts on ‘feeling bad’….

There is a really big issue in society, with people being made to ‘feel bad’…..for ‘feeling bad’.

It is taken as weakness, to feel sadness, grieving, anger and hurt, no matter what has been endured to cause it.

Comparisons and judgments are made.

Timescales are imposed…..”aren’t you over that yet?”

Assumptions are made as to the person ‘choosing’ to feel the way they do.

People believe ‘their’ version of what is strength and courage is the ‘only’ worthy belief….they must be right.

Positive thinking, that often only masks, hides & suppresses emotions and stops deeper healing… is seen wrongly as ‘strength’.

People immaturely believe “if you are sad – you are weak and if you are happy – you are strong”.

People who have very valid reasons for feeling bad…..are made to feel more ‘bad’, for feeling bad.

And like failures, for not living up to other people’s beliefs.

And none of this is anything to do with empathy, or compassion.

It is all from a very selfish and self serving mindset.

And it further shames people.

Society, is built on foundations of shame, I see that clearly, as with experts, like Brene Brown ~ who has humility, something else seen wrongly as weakness.

What do you think?

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “I think it’s needed to think about what’s healthy, and what isn’t…

  1. I think you are right on. People are uncomfortable when you are not happy or positive. I am really grieving right now. Grieving over so many things. I have been in the process of recovery for 10 years. I am afraid people think I should be over the grief. But I am grieving infancy. A stage I never connected to before. I am grieving the 40 years of being unattached to anyone. I am really sad and depressed right now. I am afraid people will say I thought you got through that already. Why are you going back over the same thing again. OK you had difficulties and challenges as a child move on. The fact is I can not move on from my PTSD and its other symptoms. I live with the challenge of them every day. It is a constant reminder of my past. Life didn’t need to be this hard.
    Today I embrace all of my humanity including my grief, joy and bliss. Right now I am just experiencing grief.