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15 Things Great Parents Do Differently

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by Luminita D. Saviuc

“Give me a child until he is 7 and I will give you the man.” ~ Jesuit motto, alleged to be attributed to Francis Xavier

It is said that in the first 7 years of life, children are like sponges, absorbing everything that they see and everything that they hear, whether it is being communicated directly to them or not. Apparently in those 7 years of their life they learn how to perceive themselves, their lives and the world they live in.  It is in those first 7 years that the foundation for their entire life is being set. And if the environment they are raised in is a warm, healthy, loving and supportive one, the foundation on which their life will be built will be a very strong and healthy one.  And all great parents know this. That is why they do things differently.

Here are 15 things great parents do differently:

1. They strive to be like their children, and not to make their children be like them.

Great parents are aware of the fact that our prior condition is love. It is light. It is happiness. They know that all children come into this world pure, whole and perfect, and because of that they strive to re-become as pure as, as connected and as aware as their children. They strive to be like their children, but they don’t try to make their children be like them.

“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.” ~ Kahlil Gibran

2. They practice non interference.

Great parents understand that parenting isn’t about having children lean on you but rather about making leaning unnecessary and through their words, actions and behaviors they teach their children how to become self reliant and to always follow their own compass.

“Parenting is not about having children lean on you but making leaning unnecessary. They have a compass, let them follow their own compass; freeing you up to be your own person on your own time and allowing them to become who they are to become.” ~ Wayne Dyer

3. They teach their children to honor the relationship they have with their inner Divinity.

Because they know that the relationship one has with their inner Divinity, with their heart and Soul, and with the Invisible Force that created the whole universe, is the most important relationship in one’s life, (even more important than the relationship they have with their parents) they are constantly encouraging their children to trust their inner voice and intuition. To honor the voice of their heart and Soul, and to always walk on the path that life needs them to walk upon.

“Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” ~ Matthew 10:37

4. They protect, preserve and develop their children’s genius.

“All children are born geniuses; 9,999 out of every 10,000 are swiftly, inadvertently degeniusized by grownups.” ~ Buckminster Fuller

Years ago, an incredible study was made at Harvard University called Project Zero in which, Howard Gardner together with his colleagues, found that every child is born a genius across multiple intelligences and that by the age of 20, the percentage of geniuses within a population whittles down to 10%… and over the age of twenty, only 2% retained their genius ability. And great parents are aware of this this. As a result, they do their best to protect, preserve and constantly develop their unique gifts, genius and talents, without interfere with their children’s ability to create and express themselves freely and openly.

5. They encourage their children to walk on their right life path.

Great parents don’t try to impose unrealistic or unsuitable expectations on their children. Encouraging them to always do the things they feel in their hearts are right for them even if they make little or no sense for others.

They are constantly reminding their children that each and every one of us is meant to walk on a unique path in life, and that only by walking on this path we will always remember who we really are, where we come from, where we’re going and why we are here on this planet.

6. They don’t give up on themselves, their lives and their dreams “for their children”.

These parents know that even though they are responsible for the lives of their children, for their happiness, education, health and well-being, they also know that they are responsible for their own lives, for their own happiness, dreams, health and well-being. And through everything they do, they strive to achieve personal – family balance, always honoring the relationship they have with their inner Divinity and always staying true to their life calling and life path.

7. They encourage their children to never look for love and approval outside themselves.

Great parents know that we are all born whole and perfect and that within ourselves we have all the love, all the happiness, and all the approval we need and desire. And that is why they teach their children to never seek for love, happiness and approval outside themselves, and to never make other people responsible for how they feel or don’t feel.

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A reflection of the last three years in my healing journey…

A reflection of the last three years in my healing journey…


‘Positive thinking’, ‘focussing on the good’, ‘counting my blessings’… for me…..only ever masked and avoided me dealing with the deeper issues and deeper healing I needed.

I have spent the last 3 years, with varying levels of depression, pain, suicide ideation, hurt and grieving and as painful as it has all been….all of the last three years…..was actually needed, for my deep healing journey.

I am thankful I had the courage and resilience, to take that deeper and far more painful but needed journey.

I actually wouldn’t change a single day of it.

You can be dealing with trauma, dealing with the pain, the processing, the grieving….

And that actually be the ‘positive’ journey needed…..even though it doesn’t appear positive at all to others.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario ❤

You only heal and transform, when you take the honest inner journey….

A post to my personal page, that is something I see so clearly…


I cannot repeat enough….

How personal growth and healing is only ever when the ‘inner journey’ to dealing with everything within our own heart, soul, mind….is faced.

I clearly see how people don’t heal as much as is possible….because they continually focus outside of themselves, on others, on the perpetrators, on ‘only’ managing symptoms.

It takes courage and a sense of deep integrity to honesty, a willingness to face being wrong, face inside what isn’t pleasant to find, and what needs to be changed within….to heal and grow.

Healing and growth are about transformation…..and that requires deep honesty about self.

Those who believe there is nothing dark, or yucky inside themselves, are living a ‘positive illusion’ about self…..

And sadly……will never heal and transform.

And this is not judgment of anyone, but it makes me really sad.

Because healing, is what I want for everyone.