Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I will always educate about abusive people….something not common with ‘church people’.

I have only been able to come as far as I have in my journey……..because I educated myself…….about abusive people.

This was necessary, so I could learn what happened to me, why I was treated the way I was, why none of this was my fault – or anything to do with what was wrong with ‘me’.

All the abuse……was what was wrong with ‘them.’ All of them.

I was told by my first counsellor that I am doing most of my own counselling…..and she was right….I have.

I haven’t learned 99% of what I know and how it affected me……in counselling.

I learned it myself…..through months of dedication to educating myself and seeing how the psychology aspect of everything….fitted with the harm and abuse I have endured and my deep discernment.

My counselling is Christian counselling…….and church people have a really hard time accepting reality, accepting bad people exist, and accepting the deep harm they cause to others.


They focus far too much on the easy path of forced forgiveness….throw a bucket of cheap grace at the issue…..the path of least resistance, and feeling this huge (shame based) issue with being really honest about what many people are in fact capable of.

And despite their bleating…..no, their sins of horrific abuse and causing suffering to others….is not equal to the minor sins of others, this is again, their projecting shame and lack of living in reality, I see so clearly.

So…. yes, I have learned most of what I know, because I made the effort to learn it….myself….and not be duped and brain washed into the passive, apathetic, weak ways too many church people deal with abuse…….. and all their many ways they harm abuse survivors, with lack of compassion, lack of empathy and lack of reality, and desire to live in ease and comfort, see the world through rose coloured glasses and sugar coat everything……to make their own lives easier…..being very selfish and unwise and abusive, themselves.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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