I’ve spend 3 years, thinking about, researching, processing, and grieving abusive people and the harm they caused me.
And I did need that period of time because I have endured so much trauma and abuse…..and I also sadly endured further trauma and abuse (spiritual / narcissist minister / unhealthy church abuse)…….whilst trying to deal with trauma and abuse from the past.
And even though this last 3 years has been so intensely painful and nearly killed me several times….. I had to go through it… to heal.
But, there comes a time, when we need to make a choice, to reduce this.
Otherwise, we do just become addicted to the abusers, and the abuse.
And addiction to trauma and abuse……is very common.
It is a choice that needs to be made ~ to *not* allow ourselves to be addicted to the trauma, abuse and suffering.
And make the choice…..to have more positive, joyful and lovely things within our lives and within our thoughts.
Something I discussed in counselling and was validated, as correct.
We do have power over our thoughts.
And no-one deserves to be addicted to trauma, abuse and suffering.
Carl G Jung quote ^^^
We do deserve to have increasing joy, happiness and goodness in our lives.
But, we have to *want* that.
There is a period of time for processing, learning about trauma, dealing with the reality of the horrific abuse we have endured.
But, that period of time…..is not needed to be indefinite.
I want hope and healing for people……and this is my passion.