Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Mental health, is not an excuse to be abusive.

It was not a surprise to me…….that this following post to my PTSD/Healing page did not receive many likes….compared to other posts.

It only affirms to me…….the need to write the post.

Mental health should not be an ‘excuse’, to be abusive.

There seems to be this wrong and deluded view, that no-one with PTSD, can be a nasty kind of person.

PTSD is a disorder, that as with many other disorders (Bipolar, Depression, Personality Disorders etc) ……..can and does co-occur with narcissism – far more than many realise, or want to accept/acknowledge .

‘Some’ people with PTSD…..use their diagnosis as an excuse to be angry and nasty to people…..and feel ‘entitled’ to do so and ‘blame’ their PTSD. Whilst making no real effort to manage their symptoms.

This happens and I see this attitude ….and I do not in any way support, or encourage this attitude.

Because in no way do I support, encourage or enable abusive behaviours to others.

No matter what caused the PTSD….. this does not entitle anyone to be nasty, mean or abusive.

We all need to take responsibility for our own symptoms and behaviours………learn to manage them…… learn how to appropriately manage irritability, anger etc.

Mental health, is not an ‘excuse’ to hurt and affect others.

These entitled, selfish behaviour attitudes, and not taking responsibility for actions……. is the attitude ‘abusers’ have….. and also contributes to mental health stigma.

This is why I have a website that I share for all – full of info that I researched and learned about, whilst taking responsibility for my mental health.

Website @ http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/

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Sadly, I am married to exactly this list.


It is quite scary and sad……..just how much this list sums up my husband.

They’re Controlling


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A sizable indicator that someone is a toxic person is if they are overly controlling. Though many of us have controlling tendencies, there’s a difference between someone who likes things tidy and someone who tries to manipulate the people close to them. If you feel somebody trying to pull your strings the person in question is probably not the best for you.

They’re Jealous


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Another way someone can be a toxic force in your life is by being constantly jealous of your accomplishments. The people you are closest to in life should be overjoyed each time you succeed, so if you feel like you can never share good news with this person that should be a red flag.

They Lie


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Unsurprisingly, toxic people are often frequent liars. Whether this person is telling large or little lies, it doesn’t matter. If you frequently catch someone lying to others, there’s a strong chance they are also lying to you. People who have the greatest positive effect on us are people we can trust, so keeping someone who is dishonest around will inevitably be a drain on you.

They Play The Victim


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Another way toxic people can be harmful is by always playing the victim. Although these people may be convincing as to why a situation is far worse for them, if someone constantly claims to be the worst affected by life it can be a sign they are not good for you. Someone who is toxic will consistently ask others to give more than they themselves are willing to give.

They Gossip


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Another hallmark of toxic people is a zest for gossip that’s a little too strong. Not only does overly frequent gossip show that someone will rarely converse with you about things of substance, gossip is also usually fiction. If you are constantly around someone who’s a constant gossip it is likely they have the same lack of respect for you. Not only that, only talking about other people is tiresome and boring in the long run, so you are probably better off without them.

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