Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Child abuse condoned/enabled? You will be dropped from my life, immediately.

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Child abuse condoned/enabled? You will be dropped from my life, immediately.

  1. I agree! I allow some wiggle room for light spanking, because in this country so many parents still do it, though I stopped doing it years ago. But on my website (all names changed) I write about the trauma of being best friends with a guy who not only betrayed me, but turned out to be a child abuser. I knew his wife was, but I thought he was reformed–until he was convicted of choking one of his kids.

    They found my website and accused me of defaming the wife, which tells me they still don’t see themselves as abusers–even though they laughed about smacking their kids upside the head. I saw the wife do this to a toddler!!! For some time I hoped my former friend would repent for betraying me, until the truth of his character became glaringly obvious. This guy wanted to become a priest!

    He also was the one to convince me to spank my child, when before I didn’t think it was right. Now I look back on that with horror, and stopped doing it years ago.

    Then on Facebook, the sister of a friend posted, “Parents, beat your children. You’re not their f**king friend.” I was so appalled that I dropped her right then. Because she is the sister of a friend, I still encounter her once in a while. I blocked her after she verbally abused my husband on Facebook, so I can’t read her comments on my friend’s posts anymore.

    Recently, I overheard her saying she’s not abusive when she tweaks her son’s ears. I couldn’t help marveling at how somebody can be so blind to their own abuse. Another time, I saw her pop her son in the mouth for cussing–while she herself cusses all the time. If you don’t want him to do it, then curb it yourself!