So very thankful for this latest review of my work – Website, healing page :)

“It is an honor to be asked to write a review of your website.

As a survivor myself, I completely respect what you are doing to help others & support you 100%.

The information you provide helps people suffering from complex trauma understand there is a reason they feel as they do. It helps them connect with their experience at a very deep level. This in turn promotes healing.

You offer a supportive place for people who are feeling very alone, isolated, and may be blaming themselves for what has happened to them. There is no greater support when someone is suffering from an untold number of painful feelings.

I will be recommending your website to my clients, who would benefit tremendously from the information & support you provide.

Keep doing what is clearly your life’s mission.

Carol Lopez, CLC

Happy, Joyous & Free Recovery & Life Coaching

www.hjfrecoverylifecoaching.com

carol@hjfrecoverylifecoaching.com “

Self insight….. is not common.

By Bryant McGill

“People who have had little self-reflection live life in a huge reality blind-spot

There are ways to live life that some people are not even aware exists.

People who have had little self-reflection live life in a huge reality blind-spot. They truly believe that life is a certain way, when it really isn’t. It is like a sad inside joke that everyone is aware of, but them.

They think they have it all figured out. They really believe they are “good” people. They do everything right — on the surface.

They are responsible, friendly, pay their bills and work hard. They put food on the table for their families. They have good credit scores, don’t speed and keep a clean house.

But something is missing. It is so “missing” they don’t even know it’s missing.”

http://bryantmcgill.com/simple-reminders/bookview/

Find good mentors, advisors and role models.

“Be careful where you get your information. A lot of people who talk about success aren’t very successful. A lot of people who teach about business aren’t very accomplished at business.

There must be a million social media experts who haven’t accomplished anything with social media.

Too many people out there are giving other people bad information; some call that the blind leading the blind, and it can not only be immoral, but it can even be dangerous.

If someone is telling you how to be good to yourself — it is reasonable to have a close look at them and see if they are good to themselves.

People who talk a lot about compassion often have no compassion for themselves. They want to help everyone when their life is a wreck.

They go from one failed “uplifting” enterprise to another, but the wheels are falling-off their car, their body is out of whack and their finances are out of order, yet somehow, there they are, “advising people.” They want to help everyone when they can’t even help themselves. What they really need to do is take care of their own business.

The last thing any of us need is ill advice from someone fully out of control in their own life. So before you take that advice that is being offered, take a good look at who is delivering it.

Carefully study their energy, their lifestyle, their health and their relationships, and if they are living the life they talk — then, and only then should you listen.”

Bryant McGill.

Judgment….. is believing you are better than someone.

Judgment, is believing you are ‘better’ than someone ….. based upon beliefs, or actions etc.

I know I am no better than anyone…….. even the paedophile, sadistic psychopath, my sociopathic mother…..

I know I have healthier thinking, far healthier mental health and far less disordered & dysfunctional thinking….. than them.

But, I am not better than them, or anyone else.

And it has taken me a lot of internal work, to get to this point.

When you can say this…… you know you are not judgmental.…

If you can’t say this…… then you are judgmental.

But whilst I do not believe I am ‘better’ than anyone…….. wisdom & healthy minds know ……… not to encourage, condone, ignore, justify or rationalise, any of what unhealthy, disordered, dysfunctional people are doing.

Wise discernment …… is not judgment.